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Put down the Kleenex and back away from the Jack Daniel's. It’s perfectly all right to lament love gone bad, but you’re not the only one to have ever gone through a breakup! From messy public splits to quiet but painful separations, breaking up is just a part of life.

To help you get through it, we thought it might be a good idea to stop wallowing in your own misery and wallow in the misery of others (fictional others, that is) for a second. You might as well accept the universality of a bad end to a relationship before you move on—and you will move on! Here are our top TV breakups:

Sex and the City: Berger breaks up with Carrie via Post-It. That’s even worse than a text-message!

Friends: Ross and Rachel end their affair not one but twice—first in a teary breakup after Ross cheats, then again after a long and heartfelt letter causes more confusion.

Grey’s Anatomy: Christina finally makes it to her wedding day—only to have Burke call the whole thing off.

Gilmore Girls: On the day of her college graduation, Rory turns down Logan’s proposal in favor of striking out on her own.

We’re sure we missed some good ones, but that ought to be a good start. After you’re done drowning your sorrows in episodic television, may we suggest something good for you, like exercise? Studies have shown the endorphins released during activities like running give you the same good feelings as sex—so until you’re back in the saddle, you might as well get off the couch and work out!

Posted: 4/11/08

Do you have a friend who can move in as a roommate? Or somewhere else you can stay? I can imagine that this is a challenging situation—perhaps having someone who can help you break this cycle will move you on to a better path.

  • By kristen
  • on 4/21/08 3:36 PM EST

I don't know how to break up with a devious, sneaky, alcoholic who will say anything i want to hear just to get back in the apt. To make matters worse i don't have the money to pay the rent and bills by myself, even though I work full-time
any advice?