Take time to grieve: Every person is strong in their
own way, but pretending everything is alright when it
isn't will just prolong the healing process. Crying is
cathartic. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and don't
feel guilty for doing so.
Create a support network: Call your closest friends
and family members. Let them know that you need a
shoulder to lean on and get them involved in your
healing process. Contact them when you feel depressed
or lonely. The knowledge that so many people love you
will help you bounce back even more quickly.
Avoid contact with your ex for awhile: It may be
tempting to call, instant message him or text him, but
doing so will only take you back to square one. While
closure is important, it's necessary to take the time
to understand that the relationship is truly over. You
can meet with your ex to discuss the break up
eventually, but you need to wait until you accept that
it's time to move on. Avoiding contact also includes
avoiding his MySpace or Facebook page.
Change your environment: Move the furniture around in your home. Paint. Buy new sheets and a new bedspread. Get rid of that blanket the two of you used to cuddle under on the couch. Throw all of his stuff in a box so you can't see it. Anything you need to do to exorcise his presence from your home will help to ease your anxiety.
Buy a journal: Write down your feelings of sadness, anger and betrayal. Writing provides a personal outlet for your grief and will assist in quickening the healing process.
MJ Acharya is a freelance copywriter living in Boston, MA. She is the founder of brokenheartedgirl.com and the author of The Breakup Workbook. Her common-sense breakup advice has been featured online at
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The Breakup Workbook: A Common Sense Guide to Getting Over Your Ex, is a friendly, yet firm step-by-step guide to healing the broken heart. It features 33 breakup recovery exercises with names like, Unleash Your Evil Thoughts, Deal With His Stuff, and Thr...