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bratnee623

Question:How could i have made him trust me more when i never did anything for him not to in the first place?

Slight insight into who he is....He was a very jealous guy and at first it was in moderation which was a little cute and slightly flattering. After a while he kept burdening me with his insecurities of me hanging out with my friends saying that i chose them over him. Even if a guy was interested in me and i wanted nothing to do with them, he held me accountable and never let me live it down even months after.

Asked by bratnee623 on 11/25/08 1 Answer»
lostinlove

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Hi Bratnee623,

Well i'm no expert, but it sounds like your guy has been hurt before and he's projecting his insecurities on to you. If he hasn't been hurt, then he may just be one of those jealous and possessive types. At any rate, neither scenario is good for you. However, there may be a chance to salvage the relationship through opening & deeping lines of communications in order to get to the real issues behind his non-trust or possibly seeking couples counseling....otherwise you may just have to face the facts and cut your loses now, but know that unless you've given him a true reason to feel that way, such as you seeing someone on the side and him finding out, you lying, or other dishonest/cheater type acts then you are good, don't blame yourself for his doubt.

Answered by: lostinlove on 12/14/08
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