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The Plot Thickens

The Plot Thickens

There are several ways of winning back a lover after a breakup. You could write him or her a romantic letter outlining your plan to change, you could arrange for a romantic holiday, or if your ex likes Motown, you could learn how to do "the twist." One thing you shouldn't do is plot an elaborate kidnapping scheme involving your best friend, night vision goggles and a Darth Vader-style voice conversion helmet.

Twenty-eight-year-old James Wakefield was dumped by his live-in girlfriend last December and apparently spent the last six months coming up with a plan for his friend Aaron Ronson to kidnap her while wearing a Dalek voice changer helmet as a disguise. Wakefield was to rush in at the last moment and rescue his damsel in distress. Rawson, however, never went through with the plan. On his first attempt, he was frightened by a neighborhood cat, and on his second and last attempt he got spooked by a car's headlights.

Instead of winning back the heart of his beloved, Wakefield and his pal were awarded with fines and jail time.

Really, people, if your ex hasn't come crawling back after a month, maybe two months max, she or he is just not into you. Instead of spending your time hatching an elaborate plan using your Star Wars action figures as stand-ins, work on improving your self esteem—or your dance skills. [The Telegraph]

Posted: 8/11/08

LoL... this to funny. I feel sorry for him though because to me it's kind of romantic. Maybe he would have had a better outcome if he rode up on a horse, dressed as a knight in shining armor.

  • By Forseer
  • on 11/30/09 1:56 PM EST

HAHA. I'm sorry. I feel bad for the guy, but you have to admit what he did was funny and kind of... sad?

The soundtrack to this guys situation is: Hawthorne Heights - Niki FM. "I'm outside of your window with my raadiioo."

I do agree that the best way to win a lover back or feel better about yourself is improving your self esteem.