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Question:my husband of 20yr and i have been apart almost 6 yr he has changed we both have others in our lives we have been talking about getting back together but i do love the guy im with but i want to try my marrige again how do i tell the guy im with who loves

Asked by josie1 on 1/1/09 1 Answer»


Wow, that's a tough situation to be in. I love the idea, though, that you're putting something back together.

If you're serious enough to be considering it, you must have strong feelings, so strong that you're willing to walk away from the person you're with now.

The best thing to do is be honest and straightforward about it. Explain as simply and sincerely as you can. You don't want to drag it out or hurt him anymore than is necessary.

I wish you all the best!

Answered by: VictoriaB on 1/6/09
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