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Fear of Living Happier

There’s a fear of failure that people encounter when it comes to being happier. Fear can make you revert to some old, unhealthy habits and behaviors just to enjoy that comfortable feeling again.

“Recognize that fear, recognize that you’re human and just put it aside,” says Debbie Gisonni, author of The Goddess of Happiness: A Down-to-Earth Guide for Heavenly Balance and Bliss. “Don’t think about it. Instead of thinking about what could happen, keep focusing on what you want to happen.”

Another way to handle the fears of being happier is through volunteer work. As Anthony says, when you’re helping others, “you’re being very positive with your time and then there’s that satisfaction—the feeling of greatness that comes from helping others.”

When Scott Harrison decided to change his life to be happier, he never realized that he would question everything he held true. In 2004, the New York City resident realized that his work promoting nightclubs and fashion events was utterly unfulfilling. “I was one of the most miserable people I knew,” he says.

In order to live a happier life, Scott changed his life drastically. He re-examined his faith and volunteered a year of service as a photographer for Mercy Ships, a non-profit that offers free medical care to poor countries around the world.

“I had to see 5,000 people standing in a field with horrible tumors, cleft lips and palates, the blind, the lame,” he says. “I cried a lot, I prayed a lot and I doubted a lot, too. How could a God allow this stuff to happen?”

These tragedies didn’t stop Scott from continuing to pursue his dream of helping others. “I was lucky to be able to focus on what we could do—on the thousands of lives we could and did radically transform,” he explains. His change was so successful that he started his own non-profit called “Charity,” and Scott feels that he’s happiest when he’s helping others.

Posted: 2/5/08
livebetter

I'm happy that I found a positive site where I can learn and grow reading other's life experiences and become a happier person.

NanditaPeebles

Yes, I agree that acknowledging and being grateful for every little blessing in our lives helps us to be happy. Reaching out to others and helping them also adds to our happiness.

myash3

What I have experienced when helping people is that they want money to solve their problems not new ideas from you .

  • By myash3
  • on 6/23/11 7:19 PM EST
breezy23

Counting our blessings truly is the road to becoming happier...

ericashaw

Thanks for the reminder to count our blessings and strive to help others. It's amazing what a little perspective change can do for your life!

tonyboy56

I am happiest when Im there for someone and I know I have helped someone.

porchswing

Thank you...I work with some people who are anti-happy! I have been accused of being addicted to happiness! To them if your happy you don't take the "tragedy that is life" serious enough and are foolish. I have been letting them steal my sunshine! I just found your site yesterday and feel better all ready. I'm smiling at the note I taped to my computer, the title of Michael Anthony's book!! It's getting alittle attention already!

elsaodette

I can't believe I didn't find this on the site 'til now! Well, now is probably when I needed to read it ... starting a gratitude journal tonight =)

sandrashalom

Sometimes I don't feel like laughing, and make myself to read some of the jokes that, for sure, one of my friends have e-mailed. Maybe it sound silly, but it helps to make my energy higher. And then continue to be gratefull for all of them who think it's worthy to spend a minute to brighten other people lives.

2Doves

What a lovely website! Thank you for making it available. I am starting my gratitude journal right now and guess what item number 1 will be?

  • By 2Doves
  • on 11/4/09 4:46 PM EST
SANDNSUN70

THANK YOU THANK YOU..... I am only on day two with the 30 steps but I feel so confident that these stories and tips are going to pull me up from the shadowy deep I have sunk to and been living in for sometime now.... this is so simple to digest and embrace and I love that it requires action not just encouraging words to read. So to Ariane and everyone who contributes to this website my greatest thank you for perhaps saving my life!!!

amsterdam

i don't know where to start! it seems so easy but it is hard to be happy all day long.

rose84

I liked it alot.

  • By rose84
  • on 6/28/09 1:46 PM EST
levybal22

I have started to swim and this has helped kick some endorphines into my system.This supports my positive frame of mind and helps me change my attitude as well. I also attend support groups. I need to lose weight, again and know that lighter is better.

irenek

As for me, to change your mindset is not always possible without changing smth in your body. You may not realize the reason which prevent you from improving the consciousness.

  • By irenek
  • on 1/7/09 2:09 PM EST
lionsimba

all this is so true, its so easy to read but practicing is another matter

lilliede81

It is so true! Without being thankful for our gifts, be they a bike, job, ability to move, take in the beauty of nature, a talent or learned skill, it would be an empty life. Isn't this where happiness begins -- within our own being?
How great, grand & glorious are we!

sunnyday

I've enjoyed this little site so much...a bunch of flowers goes your way from me! I'm starting art classes again just for fun. From sunnyday

Kadee84

It makes complete sense. In order to be grateful, you have to have good things to be grateful for. Remembering those things are likely to lead to increased happiness. Things can ALWAYS be worse...it's just a matter of remembering that.

  • By Kadee84
  • on 5/21/08 7:57 PM EST
bjackson1955

i'm thinking about this,but is it so?

LoriAnn7

Focusing on the positive, and the beautiful little things that God has put in this world for us to enjoy helps me daily. I thank God for the flowers, the deer on the side of the road, those close to me and being alive after too many close calls. I need to start journaling again, I know.