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Change Will Do You Good
Congratulations! You’ve decided to improve your relationship and there’s no better time to get started. You are probably feeling a conglomeration of emotions—excitement, expectation, eagerness, trepidation and more. These feelings are normal and, during this life change, there is no one “right” way to feel.
Relationship trouble of all sorts abounds. According to the Census Bureau, the ratio of marriage-to-divorce is two-to-one. A 2005 survey by The Conference Board reports that 50% of Americans are dissatisfied with their jobs. For many, the employee-employer relationship is to blame. That same study determined that 40% of workers feel disconnected from their employers. It doesn’t take statistics to know improving familial relationships are among the most complicated.
As research has shown, happiness is linked to meaningful relationships. Happy people report good relationships with family, friends and coworkers. That shouldn’t be surprising. We are all striving for a well-balanced life, which requires the input, stimulation and support of others.
The first step is to decide to change your ailing relationship, and you’ve made it to this point.
I totally agree with what Nauset has written, it has taken me years to finally realise that, i am now letting go of people who drain me, some people may think that i am cutting off my nose to spite my face but it does help, it makes such a massive difference in how i feel and see myself. I have made the choice to be amongst equals, this includes friendships but most important to me a relationship, i now look back and realise that i have yet to have a equal relationship, i truly believe that people come into ours lives for a reason, season or a lifetime.... well i have finally worked out the reason and am now ready to settle for nothing but the best, not second best but the best....an equal....in mind, body and soul.
Uplifting to hear the message that change will do good. Yet recent experience tells me that it sometimes reveals more rocks to tackle...I think that making a plan, taking a direction is what makes a difference. I don't think we can pretend that's easy - sometimes it takes some real grieving, which is human, natural and part of moving forwards, isn't it? Nauset, you speak of letting go of friendships that leave you depleted and that is courageous, and taking responsibility for what nourishes you. It may take a while before we can look back and say 'I'm glad I decided to change, in the light of those circumstances' So, the story unfolds...