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Question:do you feel better after you cry?

i can't think of my dad without starting to cry. and i never feel better afterwards...

Asked by bstarr on 4/30/08 4 Answers»
lindad14

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I'm so sorry for your loss. I just lost my grandmother, and I came here looking for some help on how to cope and saw your question. I have been crying a lot the last few days, and I do find the release helpful. I wouldn't say that my grief has subsided at all, but I feel that it is very important to express your emotions when you feel them. There is nothing wrong with crying. I also agree with Bella that it also helps to talk to someone about your feelings. My sisters, mom and I cry together - but we also have laughed a lot telling stories about my grandmother and remembering what an amazing person she was.

Answered by: lindad14 on 11/4/08
carlabeau

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I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my Dad in 04 and he was my best friend, my business partner, and most admired mentor. I lost entirely too much at one time so I had to come up with a solution like you because crying didn't help. So I made up a rule. I would run, and cry while I was running. That way I allowed the hurt to come out but I was doing something good for myself which I knew would make my Dad feel better and less worried for me. Try it. Or try walking, bike riding. Your cry will come out but the exercise will make your endorphens soar so you will feel better when your done and you will feel a sense of direction. Good luck. I'm here for you if you need me.

Answered by: carlabeau on 5/22/08
Alexis14

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Hi Barbara,I'm so sorry for your loss. My dad died 7/01. And, in answer to your question, I don't feel better after I cry. For the next two-three years I could not talk about him without getting teary eyed or crying.

Answered by: Alexis14 on 5/10/08
Bellacuddles

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Hi there--My dad went onto heaven 9/29, and I still cry--because I miss him so much. He was 85 and lived a good life, and my sis, mom and I were with him when he went on to heaven--reading Psalm 23. It was wonderful. I do feel sad for awhile after I cry, but then I remember all the wonderful times I had with him and what he meant to other people, and I talk to my mom or my husband about it. I hope this helps you.

Barbara

Answered by: Bellacuddles on 5/2/08
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