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Can I stay friends with both?
My husband and I are very close to this one couple that are now seperated and are thinking about divorce. We love them both and it's not like one cheated or abused the other - things just aren't working out. Is it possible to remain friends with both, or are you ultimately forced to choose sides?
Usually the great friendship divide occurs naturally over time. I agree that the best thing you can do is let both of them know that you care about them and just be patient until things work themselves out.
Not that this is the same, but my boyfriend of 3 years and I broke up about 6 months ago...and while we are good friends, we still had to navigate the whole friendships with mutual friends thing. So far so good. I think it only gets awkward if one of the exes brings a new beau/belle with them...but our friends have reassured us that they love us both!
I lost touch with friends after my divorce. They had been friends of my husband first and in some ways I felt uncomfortable keeping up the relationship, but that was all my doing. I tend to think they would have welcomed my friendship. It's just so hard when people are going through a divorce to know when is the right time to insert yourself and how to go about it.
I think the best thing you could do is to let them both know you care about them and hope the outcome will be the best for both and that you are there for each of them if and when they need you.
