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Break Up, Already!

Break Up, Already!

We're just going to come right out and say it: staying in a bad relationship just because you a) don't want to be alone for the holidays or b) don't want to be the bad guy/gal who dumped someone during the most wonderful time of the year is a waste. Why wait until after the new year (or worse yet, after Valentine's Day) to make a change and move forward? It's not going to be easy, but isn't it better to be free than to be dreading an impending breakup for the next couple of weeks or months?

Here are our top 5 highly unscientific reasons you should break up before January 1st:

1. No gifts to buy. Did you think that maybe the reason you're having such a hard time shopping is that your heart just isn't in it? Rather than give a token gift (or worse, a last minute drugstore buy with no thought in it at all), cut ties and save that cash for someone you really love, like a family member, roommate or yourself.

2. You can skip the trip to his parent's place. Let's face it, there's always some kind of family drama involved in the holiday, and it's usually because you're struggling to maintain your cool in the face of endless questions from your partner's loved ones about your career, living situation or having kids. Free yourself from the burden of traveling to where you don't want to be anyway.

3. You'll lose the nagging guilt. It can't be fun, fa-la-la-ing all over town on the outside and coming home in turmoil over the fact that you're no longer in love with this person. You're not doing yourself or your partner any favors by staying together. Give yourselves the chance to salvage the holidays separately, rather than stay together and be miserable.

4. The chance to kiss someone new. Mistletoe...a midnight countdown...we're not really suggesting that the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else, but hey—the truth is, a little fun isn't going to hurt you. This is especially true for those whose home fires stopped burning sometime around July 4th weekend. Go out, flirt and remember that you're worth someone who appreciates you in all your glory!

5. You can celebrate all on your own. If you're holding on because you're afraid to be alone during the holidays, think back to the times when you were single and got through Hannukah, New Year's Eve and Valentine's Day just fine. You'll be able to do it again! Grab some single pals and hit a party, or just throw on sweats and spend the night in. Being on your own is heaps better than being in a relationship that isn't working for you—and in the grand scheme of things, you're probably not going to remember this as the worst holiday season of your life (that one probably happened around age 8, when you found out Santa wasn't real.)

Have you survived a holiday split? Tell us about your experience.

Posted: 12/2/08
NatashaHaye

Hi everyone, I'm so excited.
My ex-boyfriend is back after a breakup,I’m extremely happy that will are living together again.
My name is Mary Wilkie from England.
My boyfriend of a 4yr just broke up with me and am 30 weeks pregnant.I have cried my self to sleep most of the nights and don’t seem to concentrate during lectures sometimes I stay awake almost all night thinking about him and start to cry all over again.Because of this I end up not having energy for my next day’s classes ,my attendance has dropped and am always in uni and on time.Generally he is a very nice guy ,he ended it because he said we were arguing a lot and not getting along.He is right we’ve been arguing during the pregnancy a lot .After the break up I kept ringing him and telling him I will change.I am in love with this guy and he is the best guy I have ever been with.I’m still hurt and in disbelief when he said he didn’t have any romantic feelings towards me anymore that hurt me faster than a lethal syringe.He texts me now and then mainly to check up on how am doing with the pregnancy,he is supportive with it but it’s not fair on me, him texting me as I just want to grieve the pain and not have any stress due to the pregnancy.i was really upset and i needed help, so i searched for help online and I came across a website that suggested that Dr Unity can help solve marital problems, restore broken relationships and so on. So, I felt I should give him a try. I contacted him and he told me what to do and i did it then he did a spell for me. 28 hours later, my bf came to me and apologized for the wrongs he did and promise never to do it again. Ever since then, everything has returned back to normal. I and my bf are living together happily again.. All thanks to Dr Unity. If you have any problem contact Dr.Unity now and i guarantee you that he will help you.Email him at: Unityspelltemple@gmail.com ,you can also call him or add him on Whats-app: +2348071622464 ,His website: Link .

SHIRLEY127

Hello I am Shirley Morris ,I am out here to spread this good news to the entire world on how I got my ex husband back.I was going crazy when my husband left me and my two kids for another woman last month, But when i met a friend that introduced me to Dr Keke Odin the great messenger to the oracle of Great Keke Spell Temple. I narrated my problem to Dr Keke Odin about how my ex Husband left me and my two kids and also how i needed to get a job in a very big company.He only said to me that i have come to the right place were i will be getting my heart desire without any side effect.He told me what i need to do,After it was been done,24 hours later, My Ex Husband called me on the phone and was saying sorry for living me and the kids before now and one week after my Husband called me to be pleading for forgiveness,I was called for interview in a very big company here in USA were i needed to work as the managing director.. you can contact Dr Keke Odin through the following mean

Email: greatkekespelltemple@gmail.com

Mobile Number: +1 386-336-9876

website: Link

SHIRLEY127

Hello I am Shirley Morris ,I am out here to spread this good news to the entire world on how I got my ex husband back.I was going crazy when my husband left me and my two kids for another woman last month, But when i met a friend that introduced me to Dr Keke Odin the great messenger to the oracle of Great Keke Spell Temple. I narrated my problem to Dr Keke Odin about how my ex Husband left me and my two kids and also how i needed to get a job in a very big company.He only said to me that i have come to the right place were i will be getting my heart desire without any side effect.He told me what i need to do,After it was been done,24 hours later, My Ex Husband called me on the phone and was saying sorry for living me and the kids before now and one week after my Husband called me to be pleading for forgiveness,I was called for interview in a very big company here in USA were i needed to work as the managing director.. you can contact Dr Keke Odin through the following mean

Email: greatkekespelltemple@gmail.com

Mobile Number: +1 386-336-9876

website: Link

vondaki

I was too curious to know if love spell really work or if Dr. Wakina via (dr.wakinalovetemple@gmail.com) is even real because of numerous encouraging reviews about him. I wanted help getting back my husband but I was also scared at the same time because it was my first time. But every fears surrounding me disappeared immediately Dr. Wakina started the spell.
My request to Dr. Wakina was “for the past 4 month my Husband changed to monster, we have been fighting and he started finding excuses not to come home or even visit on weekends, before he finally disappeared from my life. I found out weeks after his disappearance that I’m pregnant with his kid”.
My pregnancy was gradually stressing me out and I wanted my Husband to come home and take care of me and be faithful as well. My husband was a loving, good and responsible man before he lost his job. I was desperate and at the same time afraid of harming him until Dr. Wakina finally brought him back as promised. It was like a magic in front of my eyes. It was a wonderful experience and prove that Dr. Wakina and his email (dr.wakinalovetemple@gmail.com) are real.

  • By vondaki
  • on 11/5/16 10:07 PM EST
shrnjsn

A million of thanks to Omituko’s Love Solution via (omitukolovesolution@gmail.com). Our entire family thanks you for extending your helping hand towards us through your mysterious love spell when we were experiencing series of marital distress. Uniting our family once again for good is the sweetest gift ever. Omituko hard work and help during the spell changed our world for good. He was always willing to comfort and encourage us whenever we feel like giving up. We appreciates Omituko time and effort that unite our family again and also the review that led us to him. Thank you!

  • By shrnjsn
  • on 10/5/16 9:49 AM EST