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Why can’t mommies get along? It seems the “to work or not to work” conflict is never ending for new moms, though the decision to stay home or go back to work after having a baby is very personal. Why can’t a truce be called?
 
According to the author of Opting in: Having a Child Without Losing Yourself, much of this conversation has to do with unresolved feelings we have about our mother’s decisions to work or stay home. If a woman was unhappy with her mother’s decision to go back to work, she may have perceived her mother as being a cold or unavailable and that would likely influence her decision to stay home. Likewise, a woman whose mother stayed home may be viewed as old fashioned and going to work seems like an obvious choice.
 
Until we deal with our feelings about our mothers, as Newsweek article argues, the mommy wars will continue. Maybe it’s time to hash it out for your children’s sake. [Newsweek]

Posted: 4/21/08