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Question:How do you know when it's time to let go of a friendship?

And how does one go about such an endeavor?

Asked by jeanfroner on 3/6/08 4 Answers»


I agree with the previous answers. I must admit that one of the things that helped me was going to the 30 Day Breaking Up section. It helped me get things straight for a little while each day. (No, I don't work for the site) Good luck!!

Answered by: martyso on 6/3/08


If you are asking the question you already have your answer. It's time to let go.
without detail it's hard to advise on how to cut the cord, but things that have worked in the past for me is an e-mail carefully written. If that person wants further discussion ablidge them, but don't make them feel bad..
another approach that has worked if you know the person is going to be confrontational is simply to be busy and not allow time for the friendship anymore..
Good luck to you

Answered by: solareclipsegt on 5/20/08


I recently attended a celebration event (Christian-based) and the reading was on Jonah and the boy did it make sense!!!
you've gotta stay positive in this walk of ours- especially if you are prone to depression like me.
That includes keeping positive people there to call friends..sure negative things always occur, but DRAMA (constant) is so tiring in a friend, isn't it? So, I say listen girl- if it doesn't do anything but sap the life out of you, let it go. would love to share more on that testamonial if your interested. Take care of you, and GOD BLESS. maddiehilliard

Answered by: maddiehilliard on 4/17/08


That's a tough one. It seems contradictory... I mean isn't a friend always a friend? And yet, like everything else, friendships change and people change and the reasons you came together are not always enough to keep the friendship going.

I've had friends tell me I should stop being friendly with one of my friends--mostly because she is a negative person and her energy is draining, not fortifying, but I don't feel right turning my back on a friend because she's stuck in a rut. What I do instead is try to share many of the things I've been learning about happiness and gratitude in the hopes I can inspire her to add more optimism to her life.

All that said ... I still can see how you want to strengthen relationships with certain people and deemphasize relationships or sever them all together with people who don't feel right for where you are and where you want to be/go with your life.

I came across an article linked from one of our news updates about how a bad relationship can be stressful. You might want to check it out.

The only other advice I can offer is to let the person know why you're exiting from their life. For one it will bring you greater peace of mind and it may even inspire them to clean up their act to be better friends with others going forward.

Answered by: VictoriaB on 3/7/08
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