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newlife26

Question:Why am I always an outcast?

HI I am new to this site so I really don't know how this is going to go. As a child I have always been positive upbeat caring hopeful person, but recently I have lost that spark I have always been a out-cast where ever I go to family gatherings trying new stuff i.e. traveling by myself trying to make friends. Ever since I have been a teen I have tried being someone different and now that Iam in my late 20s I realized I need to be myself. I have even gone to therapy and i am still an out-cast. few years ago I got depressed and I now after three years i am learning how to get back to being myself. I want to know why is this happening and are there other people who are going through is or have been through this and how did they do it?

Asked by newlife26 on 2/2/09 2 Answers»
augiedog

Answer:

I went through something similar. At work, I felt isolated from all of my co-workers. I became very unhappy because I was once part ot the team. I complained bitterly to my friends. Then, my friends stopped inviting me places. I felt like they were shutting me out. I was severely unhappy and spent many days crying about the situation. I decided to change my focus. That meant doing the things that none of my friends were interested in doing, but that make me happy. I joined social groups, not to make friends, but to pursue and develop my interests. I enjoyed myself, and that translated to the people in the group - I made new friends. This brightened my outlook. As a result, I was a happier, calmer person. Interactions with my co-workers became more positive, eventually returning to their former state. I posted blurbs on a social networking account about the changes I had made, and how good I felt. My old friends replied that they were happy for me, and the lines of communication with them were once again open. I came to realize my feelings of isolation gave me a air of negativity that made me unapproachable; and my constant complaining made me a dull person to be around. It was a good lesson for me to learn.

Answered by: augiedog on 3/20/09
Ersa30

Answer:

This little book may help you.
'Who's Rejecting Who?" by Xavier Waterkeyn.
You are on an exciting journey to understand yourself and others. Hang in there.
Suze

Answered by: Ersa30 on 3/7/09
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