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Denial is Therapeutic

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When you lose a loved one, it’s normal to feel overcome by disbelief. The numbness and the repetitive thought of “I can’t believe this has happened” is all too common. You might wake up and sense someone on the other side of the bed, wander into his room, expect her to come home at a certain time or call you on the phone. This is a common reaction.

Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, M.D. first identified these types of reactions in her book, On Death and Dying, as denial, the first stage of grief. Denial is a natural part of the grieving process and can be viewed as your mind’s way of protecting you: You may find yourself moving from distraction to the reality and back again. In order to relieve some of the acute physical and emotional stress you are experiencing, your mind temporarily “forgets” that you’ve lost your loved one. You need time to cope with the loss, and the denial stage allows you to process the loss over time.

The sheer number of times you’re shocked back into the reality that your loved one is no longer with you may seem unreal. Don’t criticize yourself up if you wake one morning feeling great, having forgotten that your loved one has passed. There’s no point in feeling guilty for your momentary solace.

When your sadness sets in, try to think of a happy memory associated with your loved one as you go about your routine: Try to remember a funny story associated with a dinner or a phone call your loved one made every night. These memories will help you through.

Posted: 8/8/20
julicad111

Author: Julian Caden
Topic: Pregnant at 52 after reunion love spell
Testimony:
-My marriage was falling almost dead due to a bit argument, depression, feelingless and numbed attitudes of my Hubby, he preferred being silent so as to hurt me.
-Although there’re days he has been fine and good to me, we cook, eat and do things together, but we still like stepping on a dozen of eggs, we were not at ease as like before when our marriage was still in an excellent shape. Most times after saying some hurtful words to me like; I cannot bear his children anymore cos of my age. He says sorry and apologize cos he knows that he’s acting passive, numbed and feelingless to me and frustration hits him back again and again.
-I truly love my Hubby and feels guilty of our misfortune, I have always wanted to trace back my wrongs and make some amendments so we can live as a happy family with our children by our side. I was tired of seeing him hurt inside.
-He eventually served me with a divorce letter after 18 years of our blessed marriage. His reason was that we could never work things out together again, I couldn’t bear his children, shutting him off to be involved in my life and affairs, he feels numbed when he thinks of those circumstances.
-I was deeply hurt before consulting Dr. Wakina Love Temple, even though I tried day by day to adjust to the woman of his choice but he didn’t see my efforts.
-At the end, I was put in a better position with my Hubby by Dr. Wakina love spell via his email dr.wakinalovetemple@gmail.com. I’m 7 months pregnant already at 52. It’s a magical work of Dr. Wakina that restored our dream.

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queencla660

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Though it might sound impossible to still get hold of your crush for that period of time without any means of communication. I always felt he took my heart away with him because I could not fall in love again and I could not stop thinking about him but I can not be with him. Doc Wakina (dr.wakinalovetemple@gmail.com) proved that nothing relating to love issues is impossible for him; doctor also proved that true love does not die after broking the barriers between us. Days after the spell, he returned unexpectedly to take me along with him. My happiest moment is seeing us live happily for a year without issues before getting married. We are still astonished by the good spiritual work that brought us together forever.

twiladennis

I am in my early 40s and have never had a happy relationships or marriages because of the terrible mistake I made in my youthful age (15 years ago), though I have been married for 3times now. This story is ugly but I must share it to clear my conscience and pave the way for a new beginning in life. I broke two homes; their marriage did not mean anything to me as much as I gets what I want. It was fun until I got married, then karma started. My first husband was a cheating machine with both women and men, the second was nothing to write home about. I visited a therapist immediately the second left, to make sure I do not have broken home again, but the third which I have married for a year and two months took in another girl and demanded I leave his house. I did not see that one coming. To cut it shot; dr. wakina via (dr.wakinalovetemple@gmail.com) showed me mercy by rewriting history with a special love spell. Asked me to first go and plead for forgiveness from the homes I broke before the spell can take effect, it was not an easy task, in fact it was a suicide mission but was success. The spell took effect immediately I forgave myself, something strange began to happen, I saw shadows running off my body that morning, my husband who despised me so much did not only call but came to pick me from work to a romantic dinner. Over a year now, my husband has remained a loving and romantic man. I learnt my lesson. Thank you doctor wakina.

morch606

I AM AMONG THE MANY THAT SEEK THE HELP OF DR. WAKINA, WHO IS A LOVE SPELL SPECIALIST. MY ROCKY MARRIAGE CRASHED RIGHT BEFORE MY EYES THEREBY CAUSING ME TO MAKE THE DECISION THAT GOT THE DESTINY OF MY FAMILY BACK ON TRACK. DESPITE USING WAKINA SPELL, I MADE SURE MY HUSBAND RECONSIDERED RETUNING BACK TO ME WILLINGLY WITHOUT ANY PRESSURE, BUT THE CASTED LOVE SPELL WORKED ALONGSIDE HIS WILL TO BE WITH HIS FAMILY, THOUGH SOMEONE DID USED MAGIC AGAINST HIM.
DR. WAKINA VIA HIS EMAIL (DR.WAKINALOVETEMPLE@GMAIL.COM) EXPLAINED THE MAGIC THAT MADE HIM TO RUN AWAY FROM RESPONSIBILITIES. DOC SAID THOUGH HE WILL MISS HIS LOVE ONES BUT THE MAGICAL SPIRIT WONT LET HIM COMMUNICATE OR EVEN GO CLOSE TO THEM.
IT WAS A ROUGH MOMENT TO STAY WITHOUT MY HUSBAND FOR ALMOST A YEAR. BUT TODAY, THE MAN I LOVE WHOLEHEARTEDLY HAS BEEN CLEANSED OF EVERY NEGATIVE SPIRITUAL OPERATION BY DOCTOR WAKINA.