Inner Beliefs Are Holding You Hostage
When life turns out differently than planned, look closely at your inner beliefs. While these ideas about the way things are or should be are a strong part of your identity, they’re not always accurate. Rather than letting them hold you back, work to redefine them—and yourself in the process.
When a change occurs, ask yourself what belief is being triggered. For example, if you’re devastated at getting laid off at 29, you may discover the underlying belief, successful people have houses by 30. Or if your daughter announces that she’s not going to college, your belief, people who don’t go to college are failures, may suddenly come to the surface.
Once you recognize these beliefs, try flipping them and see how it feels. Tell yourself, I’ll have a house when the time is right or, she’ll go to college if and when she’s ready. Changing your identity isn’t easy, but if you can see it as an opportunity to explore the next phase of yourself, you’ll find your way to acceptance.
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