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Why am I always an outcast?
HI I am new to this site so I really don't know how this is going to go. As a child I have always been positive upbeat caring hopeful person, but recently I have lost that spark I have always been a out-cast where ever I go to family gatherings trying new stuff i.e. traveling by myself trying to make friends. Ever since I have been a teen I have tried being someone different and now that Iam in my late 20s I realized I need to be myself. I have even gone to therapy and i am still an out-cast. few years ago I got depressed and I now after three years i am learning how to get back to being myself. I want to know why is this happening and are there other people who are going through is or have been through this and how did they do it?
I went through something similar. At work, I felt isolated from all of my co-workers. I became very unhappy because I was once part ot the team. I complained bitterly to my friends. Then, my friends stopped inviting me places. I felt like they were shutting me out. I was severely unhappy and spent many days crying about the situation. I decided to change my focus. That meant doing the things that none of my friends were interested in doing, but that make me happy. I joined social groups, not to make friends, but to pursue and develop my interests. I enjoyed myself, and that translated to the people in the group - I made new friends. This brightened my outlook. As a result, I was a happier, calmer person. Interactions with my co-workers became more positive, eventually returning to their former state. I posted blurbs on a social networking account about the changes I had made, and how good I felt. My old friends replied that they were happy for me, and the lines of communication with them were once again open. I came to realize my feelings of isolation gave me a air of negativity that made me unapproachable; and my constant complaining made me a dull person to be around. It was a good lesson for me to learn.