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What a Mess!

At the end of the day, it all comes down to dishes in the sink and dust on the shelves. If you’re living with a significant other or spouse, you know that dissimilar ideas of what clean means can make for some wicked fights!

Fortunately, there are ways to compromise on chores without compromising the relationship. If he’s the Oscar to your Felix (or vice-versa) you can learn to coexist and still get the floor swept. As with any issue in a relationship, the first line of defense is communication. Does your partner know that you want things to be a bit neater around the house? Be sure that you’ve each had a chance to talk about your expectations.

Speaking of expectations, one of you might have them set too high. If you (or your partner) thinks the other person is going to do all the changing, you’re in for a long and dirty road ahead. If you’re the neatnik, you may just have to accept that you will do more tidying up. If you’re the slob, understand that your partner is going to always want you to clean up more.

Some experts suggest that you further compromise by allowing each other some free space to be messy. For instance, maybe he has a room that is his, and can be as cluttered as he likes, or she can make her car a shrine to stray paper and clothing. Giving each other room to be messy can mitigate the feeling that you’re always striving for perfection.

As a last resort to improving your relationship when compromise just isn’t cutting it, talk about investing in a maid. A cleaning service can save your sanity—and quite possibly, your relationship! [CNN]

Posted: 4/14/08