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Moving in Together

Moving in Together

Whether you’re getting hitched or embracing the modern tradition of premarital cohabitation, moving in with your significant other is a big deal. From fighting for the covers every night to waking up with the person you love each morning, this new chapter in your life—especially the first 30 days—may be rife with happy moments and potential conflicts.

While there’s no foolproof plan to avoiding relationship complications after you move in together, our new friends at The Frisky have some great tips for getting through the beginning stages of creating a home together without wishing you'd kept your own place, just in case.

For instance, they suggest establishing ground rules and decorating the new place together—that way, you feel like you're both investing in living there, not just perpetually spending the night. Also, you should try spending some time apart (no! really! it's a gem of an idea) which can help you appreciate each other more.

Read the rest of their tips here, and share your own! What have you learned from moving in together that would help others about to take the plunge into cohabitational bliss?


Posted: 11/5/08

Give each other space. Sometimes, I just need to be by myself and so does my fiance. That can be tough when you are living together -- you have gone from living in separate homes to sharing a bathroom. I set aside some time to read a book or, in his case, he enjoys playing the guitar. We know that is our personal time ... And we are a better couple for having it.


My tip: fight! No, really. I spent 2.5 years living with a sig. other, and we very rarely fought or even argued. Things were not peachy keen, but rather, we didn't address issues. He was very anti-conflict, but in the end, all of these issues built up inside and it all imploded.

Discussing and arguing are healthy behaviors!

  • By aliciak
  • on 11/6/08 9:34 AM EST

The biggest tip I have for couples just moving in together is FORGIVE AND FORGET. I can't tell you how many times I've freaked out that my husband won't change the toilet paper roll or socks were all over the place...and my hubs has complained about my shoes blocking the front door or my inability to turn off all the lights, But those tiffs turn into bigger unnecessary fights and it's just not worth it. Let it go!