Getting Through Your Divorce
Though you may start dating and even become attached to someone very quickly after getting divorced, experts warn about getting too serious about “transitional,” or rebound, relationships. View your first relationships after your marriage as your segue from the world of marriage to the world of dating. Every relationship is unique, however, and you will have to decide for yourself whether this person is more than just a transition for you. Sharon notes that the person you start dating may be “The One” or may be someone who helps get you to a new place in your life. Only time will tell.
“My experience is that if you don’t have a steady relationship for a long time, you learn the convenience of being single,” says Isaac. “And then you think two or three times before you want to change or make a move.”
Naturally, not everyone is so eager to date or enter into a committed relationship after getting divorced. “I have no desire to marry again,” says Janna. “I can clearly say at this point that marriage is truly not necessary to have a happy life.”
Whether you were married for 20 years, 20 months or 20 days, you can move on with your life after getting divorced. You can find happiness—and even love—in the future. View these first 30 days as the beginning of your brand-new life. One day, hopefully soon, you’ll look back at this life-changing event and congratulate yourself for coming through it whole, with your self-esteem—and sanity—intact.
I am getting a divorce and I am shocked that my husband has told everyone else before me that it was over 4 years ago! Excuse me shouldn't he of talked to me and not led me on for these past 4 years thinking that everything was okay?
I am so darned confused about all of this.
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I am in the process of divorce.
It has been very painful for me because it is not my doing. I have been amrried for 32 years and now my husband told me that he has been cheatting on me for a few years. We have been separated for 4 months and I am now starting to feel just a little better. At least I can get through some days without crying. Our chldren are grown and we have one grandchild and another due in just a few short weeks. I never thought that we would not enjoy our retired life together and take our grandkids on vacations. But life has turned around and I find that I may have to just go it alone for awhile.
So these sotories did help me to see things differently and now Ihope I can move forward and be happy again one day.
i can agree with Janna too. i know now that i do not need a marriage to be happy .
this is a very helpful article and I especially understood Isaac"s comments when he said if you wait for a while you learn the convenience of being single-this is an interesting way to look at being on your own. Thanks!