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Question:I have fallen in love with one of my best friends but she does not have the same feelings for me. I think about her all the time and can not picture myself with anyone but her. What do I do?

Asked by cboyce82 on 6/3/08
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oldgold

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read The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran, for starters, and get a spiral notebook (I prefer wide ruled) and make time every day to write down your feelings. Any situation is easier to comprehend looking at it on a piece of paper than peering into the infinity of your heart. In three months, read back over it, and again in another three, and another three, and...
Life is an exercise in love, become a student of it.

Answered by: oldgold on 8/20/08
dmitha5

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How do you know she does not have the same feelings as you do. Is she committed to someone else? It is easy to have strong feelings for someone your so close to. If you have talked to her and know this for sure, than maybe you need to focus on your future and see less of her. You will find the right one, be patient.

Answered by: dmitha5 on 7/25/08
Kiki76

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Agreed. While it probably feels like you can't imagine life without her, you should cut communication. I've been in your shoes and while it was hard, it was the right thing to do. I got to pursue things I loved, meet new people and best of all, fell in love again (that last one took awhile.)

I'm sorry you are hurting, but you will find another side of all this!

Answered by: Kiki76 on 6/10/08
blackdiamond

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Move on. Find what you like best about yourself - and draw the strength from that to move on and uncover other opportunities for yourself. Even if it doesn't feel this way right now - there are many other people out there who might be an even better match for you. And it might be a good idea to minimize the contact with your best friend for the moment ..

Answered by: blackdiamond on 6/4/08
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