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Taking the easy route!

All my life, I allowed my thoughts to be caste in self-doubt. My twenties were spent blaming people, my thirties spent searching for answers and now in my forties I relish in me. I decided to take the easier route in life, by that I mean eliminating most of the negative and unproductive things that bogged me down, especially when it came to family. I have this saying: “You can love your family but it doesn’t mean you have to like them.” Now I embrace the good things, change my perspective when I am challenged and open myself up to the positive and optimistic things. It’s amazing to see the universe as limitless and eternal. I take the easy route in life and love it.

Shared by LaurieDeer on 11/12/08

I am in my 30's and find that I am most definately searching for answers. I had to smile when I read your TIP because I thought the quest of searching for answers would never end. I only have a few more years until I hit my 40;s and then I can focus on me :) Maybe that is it...if I start focusing on me now (in my 30's) I will get all of the answers that I am searching for...well maybe...maybe not, but it's worth a try!


I'm also in my 40's - But, I'm struggling with being positive and upbeatm, and with taking the "easy route" in life. I still have kids at home, work part-time, play chauffer, cook, clean, do laundry - whenever I try to change my perspective or be upbeat, ineveitably, something bogs me down. Any suggestions?
My motto is: "Live simply, that others may simply live." (Gandhi), but it's not as easy as it sounds!_

  • By shubert
  • on 11/16/08 10:49 AM EST

Laurie you are so right! And, God bless our families, but they are not always right and their opinions are not always right for us. Everyone has their own reality and that reality is a combination of their unique life experiences and perceptions. I agree with your age timeline - as I am in my 40's now, and with age comes a whole new view of the world. You are so on target with your positive, optimistic attitude and evolving perception. And, the Universe is limitless and eternal and once we realize that it is amazing how much easier life is. Cheers to taking the easy route!!! Victoria, I have read that book and it has a great message!

  • By eherzer
  • on 11/12/08 6:02 PM EST

I read a book that helped point me in the right direction in this regard. It's called "Excuse me, your life if waiting"

One of the points the author makes is that often times when we're butting our heads up what seems to be an insurmountable problem or something we can't change, what we really need to do is step back or let go. Her point being, banging other isn't going to help us break through. It's just going to give us a headache.

I take a similar easy route with my family and recognize that I will never be able to change some of their negativity and cynicism, but I choose to be happy and smile and not let them get me down.

Changing your perspective, as you say, makes all the difference.