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Question:I've been married for 27 years to a man who is emotionally unavailable. My needs have not been met, but I still love him but I feel that I am missing something in the relationship. Should I stay or go?

My husband is passive-aggressive.
I have been emotionally abused first as a child and by the men in my life.

Asked by Anonymous on 9/10/08 1 Answer»


Gosh ... you've stuck it out this long and you still love him, so there's obviously something there ...

I think if you know what your issues are and are dealing with them ... not letting yourself be the victim in a relationship ... and you love your husband and want to make this marriage work, then you have to bring him along on your journey.

Seek couples counseling, start over ... start having dates, talking, walking ... seeing if you can't reconnect and be fulfilled in this relationship. If he's not willing or capable of being available for you, even when you've done everything you can think of in an honest and loving way then you will have your answer.

At least you both tried.

Answered by: VictoriaB on 9/10/08
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