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Question:Got a Question? Ok I am an older guy in my forties. There is a younger women in her twentie. When I am not looking she seems to take intrest. It is hard to speak to her where she works. I don't want to play the cat and mouse game but I'm really attra

OK I'm a older guy in my forties a most beautiful much younger women in her twenties likes to stare or keep glancing at me when I'm not looking. It's been a long time comming. The only words spoken from both of us are...HI and GOODNIGHT. I'm not gonna play cat and mouse,I'm a single father she also sees her where we dine. It's hard to get a conversation simply she works there. How does one approach if at all? I know who she is ! What she drives, she is a new school teacher in my district. I spoke to and older women who knows of her. I was right on target with my observation of this young lady. Wow what an attraction And I'm not a staker just a normal guy, this is amazing and I'm very confused please help!!!!

Asked by BattlinMiner on 12/31/08 4 Answers»
claudiamontiel

Answer:

This young lady is in her twenties, you have notice she glances at you when you are no looking...mmmm
This might be a simple curios minded girl. She is in her twenties (no intentins of been pessimist) yet, keep it slow she might simply be curious of your looks?, your way of handling yourself?, who knows?....my suggestions, observe a little longer to confirm if it's only what I perceive, good luck.

Answered by: claudiamontiel on 1/3/09
letitgo

Answer:

It sounds like there is an attraction. Your instincts are usually right in these cases. Find a time when it would be comfortable to speak with her for a moment and then ask her for a future date that is non-threatening, like coffee or lunch. Take it slow, see where it goes, but don't let too much more time go by.

Good luck :)

Answered by: letitgo on 1/2/09
alegria

Answer:

Sounds like you've got a good old-fashioned crush! So, maybe you can go about acting on it in a good old fashioned way. Perhaps you can send her flowers with a note asking if she'd like to get coffee some time. That way you won't have to disturb her while she's working. You never know, she could be asking around about you, too.

Answered by: alegria on 12/31/08
BattlinMiner

Answer:

Better get a writing tablet

Answered by: BattlinMiner on 12/31/08
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