What is the first thing you tell new mothers?
I tell them that motherhood is a gift—you now have the opportunity to help another human being grow and learn, and help them find their place in the world. There is an unconditional love and wonder that comes with motherhood that can’t be found with any other experience. Each magic moment should be celebrated.
What do you say to new mothers who feel they don’t have time to enjoy their new baby, let alone celebrate?
Often we have an expectation that celebrations must be planned, or once-in-a-while moments. The truth is we need to embrace the little moments in life. Cherish the everyday gestures from your children—a smile, when they wrap their arms around you, unexpected laughter; these are the moments that will fill your core and make you feel radiant.
Often the first 30 days can be a time of adjustment—how do you deal with what can be sometimes a chaotic period?
I truly believe in being present in mind, body and spirit each and every day. I don’t want to look back and realized I missed out on meaningful time with my children because I was dwelling on something in the past, or focusing on what I couldn’t control in the future. To be present is to live each day to the fullest.
How should a new mom handle all of the parenting advice she might receive?
During your parenting journey, you’re going to get all sorts of counseling—from your family, your friends, your coworkers, your neighbors, you name it. There is (of course!) more than one way to parent, so make sure you develop your own style. Integrate the best of what you’ve learned, and then make it your own. Trust that God gave you the inherent wisdom to make decisions. We may not always get our desired outcome, but no decision is wrong if we choose to learn something from it.
Why is it so important that new mothers take the time to take care of themselves?
Some see this as selfish; I see this as an integral part of being an extraordinary mother. If you feel like you don’t matter, and don’t care for your inner core, what kind of example are you setting for your child? I regularly set up time to pamper myself; my children know that I am a happier and better mom because of it. When your children see you happy and healthy, then they will be happy and healthy.
Loren Slocum, a mother of three, author, businesswoman and international speaker, is the founder and CEO of Lobella International (lobella.com), an organization that inspires women to stay true to who they are. The author of “The Greatest Love: Being an Extraordinary Mom,” Loren is committed to helping women realize their natural gifts and talents.
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