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Being the Decider

Being the Decider

In or out? Sit or stand? Stay or go?

Faced with choices, we tend to ask for advice from the people around us—friends, family, coworkers, etc. Or if we don’t ask directly, we consider what we imagine their opinions to be.

So whose life is it anyway? Unless you’re physically unable, give yourself permission to make your own choices.

Everyone’s had a different life experience and so approaches decisions differently. Even common decisions, like clothing or food choices, are very individual. Someone who “thinks just like you” might choose chiffon and filet mignon, while you prefer cotton and ground beef. Is this person really qualified to make your decisions?

It doesn’t mean you can’t ask for feedback, or use your nearest and dearest as a sounding board—especially for the Big Stuff of Life. Just keep in mind that at the end of the day, you’re the one who knows what’s right for you. When you need to make a choice, trust your instincts. That little voice or feeling deep down inside usually has the right answer.

Posted: 1/11/09
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Very true. We should listen to that "still small voice". I do believe that God has given us an internal voice to guide us in all wisdom for all areas of our lives. Other people can't hear it, only we can for ourselves. It's a gift to us. And so it's up to us to heed that compass in our souls and follow the right path and decisions for ourselves. It's your journey - not someone else's.


I have learned nearly every lesson in life the hard way. Now coming upon my fiftyth year in life I have come to not only recognize that the voice in my tummy is there, but it is telling me the truth. God installed that mechanism, lets call it our easy button : ), at conception.
I believe that we are born into a world of sin and deception.
Reflecting on a book "The Screw tape Letters", written by C.S. Lewis. He gives character to all of the voices we hear throughout our life when it comes to making decisions. Remeber the cartoons we have seen on TV with the angel on one shoulder and the little devil on the other? Admit it, you have been there. Some of the decisions we are faced with through life, as little as they might seem, can impact our lives many years down the road. To make a long story short whether you like it or not. Trust the Easy Button.

Peace be with you, dkr4jesus (dmrsreedy)


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  • By arabrab
  • on 1/11/09 10:41 AM EST

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Now I will admite that I am no great thanker. but I can read between lines and down to earth thanking and speaking,