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Question:I am 50 and got divorced 2 yrs ago and the only problem is that my kids were introduced to the woman my ex cheated on me with and they get along with her great. It seem like they have disrespected me by doing so even tho they say they still love me and do

Cheating ex
married the woman he cheated on me with
kids like her dtg-in- law and oldest son doesnt talk to me

Asked by kwells on 8/1/08 9 Answers»
ladybug_coffee

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One more thing, let your kids come to you and talk, listen really carefully, lend your ear, but watch what you say, if the new woman comes into play do not degrade or say anything bad about her. It shows that you respect the situtation and that you are some what accepting and can make the kids at ease.

Answered by: ladybug_coffee on 8/4/08
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Dear Kwells, I think it takes a lot of a person to notice a feeling like what you have. I am in a similar situtation, but it is the reverse for me. I think of the situation that its like a new toy or a shiny new penny, it looks fun, and it is fun for a while, but then it will loose its luster and the excitement will fade away. I think your situation is much like a new penny, she is a new person in their life, wether we wanted it or not, but i think the kids might be looking for acceptance from her, and that she is still new and exciting, not someone they have known their entire life. I would suggest be a rock in their life, keep your structure, and do not limit them on their interaction with her. That will only limit your relationship with your kids. Do not feel disrespected, feel enlightened, your children are becoming independent, they are making their own choices. It does stink when you feel that you have been replaced. But as a mother you will never be replaced, you will always be loved, no matter what and that is what you have to remember, YOU ARE LOVED! I hope this helps.

Answered by: ladybug_coffee on 8/4/08
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