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He was not open and honest with me, why?

marah2448

To: Carlabeau

Thank you for your response. I know it was not me, he was not honest and open as I ask of him. I am glad I took slow and remain optimitic. I have remove his number from my cell phone. I did sleep with him but it doesn't bother me as bad because it was only a month and a few days. I have decide will no longer date a divorce man because they can not let go of there past. The past men I have dated thinking it would lead to something more; in result a not so good ending. I get the bitter end of the stick. I will take the good & bad and learn. I will now seek single man, never married.

It's been a bit challenging finding a special person that will respect and treat a good woman. It seem most men enjoy the woman that take them through the dirt.

Shared by marah2448 on 2/23/09
carlabeau

Hi Marah, Hang in there and thanks for the note. Have you read Ariane's book first 30 days? I think it will help you feel like you are not alone, and that many of us feel like you do. The stories in it are great. Please do not hold it against all divorced men. Some men, leave relationships because they too were not treated nice, but I do believe adding a 3rd person to the new relationshiop does bring additional challenges to a new couple. You are wise to take it slow. Take care of yourself first, and the rest will come! Enjoy Ariane's book and if you already read it, read it again and take the time to do the exercises she has in there. I read mine over the summer and every day for 30 days spent time reading, writing, and reflecting. I felt I really grew, and know you will too. Good Luck! Oh and my daughter just suffered a break up so she did what I often do. She worked hard at the gym, picked up an extra shift for some spending money, got a new hair do, and shopped! Try it! :) She looks great and feels good too!