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marah2448

Question:What are the signs if an Ex wants you back for the right reasons?

I meet the person online about this time last year (Dec 2008). We actually chatted online about one month because I wanted to make sure if we both wanted the same thing. One thing I did communicate to him is to be Open and Honest. Just from chatting online everything seem okay, so he gave me his number. I called and we decided to meet a resturant January 2009. I meet him and his young son - at the time he was 6 years old. After the great conversation we had at the resturant - everything seem we wanted the same thing, so called each other often and communicated about our likes and dislikes. I went to his house and vice versa. Everthing was going great until the month of March2009 I start to notice that he did not want to be with me. So I just eliminated his phone number from my cell phone.

November 2009 he just started texting me alot - how I am doing, how was your day. On Sunday afternoon he text me a couple of question, how many guys you dated after him, I said one but it did not work out. So I asked him the same question, he said a few but is now seeing someone. I ask how is it, he said great. I said congradulation.

Same conversation: I ask, Could we have been if giving the chance? He response, I do not know but I miss the sex part. My repsonse, that is good to know. Now it's Dec 2009, he is texting me What are you up to? ,When can I see you again?, How was your day? I did give me a place to meet with a group of friends of mine for a Dallas Cowboys football game but he did not make it back in time from a family outing. Of course I still had a great time. So, he told me this was week Dec 23 2009 that he will be kidless and welcome me to come over. I said How about Dec 27 at a resturant and watch a football game together. His response we have to see because it is still the holidays.

Honestly, I am attracted to his person but not enough to hold to someone that does not want the samething and all the right reasons.

He even said Merry Christmas to me. Is he just trying to hold on? Is it just for the sex? Or is he really want to reunite a relationship that begun Dec 2008 and now want the same thing?

I will mention some thought on my mind to him once we see each other face to face again.

As of now, tell me what you think? I appreciate your honest thoughts and feelings.

Asked by marah2448 on 12/26/09 1 Answer»
Forseer

Answer:

Quite honestly, I think he made it clear it was just sex. If I were you I would move on and a friendship with him might be possible, but that's totally up to you. Best of luck to you :)

Answered by: Forseer on 3/4/10
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