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SaskiaShakinWORDS create WORLDS

Words create. They can be used as weapons of mass destruction or for sacred creation. They can create joy or sorrow, pleasure or pain.

The way we choose our words speaks volumes about us: they are a window into our soul … a reflection of who we are, how we think, what we hold dear, and what we strive to become.

They mirror how we see the world, and, thus, how the world sees us. It is a 2-way mirror; for what we project with our words comes back as our reality. And the reality we experience is only as permanent as our words: change your thinking, and you change your world. In other words, we create our world with our words, and with our words we reflect the world we’ve created.

There is an old children’s rhyme that goes: “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me.” How wrong that is! Bones mend quickly in a child. But the hurt of words spoken with cruelty can leave scars for life.

As a keynote coach to countless leaders over the past
30 years, I have listened to my fair share of words. Some have nearly put me to sleep; others were mildly
boring; others were mundane and predictable; and the rare few were inspiring and memorable.

But it is seldom the words themselves that remain with me . . . it is rather the feeling that they conjured up within me. It is the images those words evoked; the emotions they brought forth that remained . . . less in my head than in my heart. For we think far more often with our heart than with our head – despite what we have been taught to believe.

I see this fact all the time in the work I do whether I am preparing an expert witness in the courtroom to sway a jury; a CEO to inspire her legions; or a non-profit fundraiser to get people to part with their hard-earned cash.

Words that come from the heart will win over hearts and minds. Words that come from the head tend to go in one ear and out the other.

So choose your words with wisdom. They can move mountains or make mud pies. They are the currency of communication. Spend them wisely; invest them with care and they will repay you many times over.

And remember: People may not remember what you’ve said, but they always remember how you made them feel.

Saskia Shakin
Author, More Than Words Can Say: The Making of Inspired Speakers

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