Posts tagged with ‘helping others’

26 jun

Ten Things to Do with Your Prosperity

JayForte“Prosperity-induced padding,” a term used by author Gay Hendricks in his book, The Big Leap, refers those extra 10 or 20 pounds many of us carry around on our frames because we are part of a culture of plenty. There are few places on the planet that have access to the amount and choices of food and resources we have. And though a recession has challenged this for many, we still have more than most.

“Prosperity-induced padding”– how interesting. Prosperity is the thing we work hard to achieve. “Padding” is the thing we work hard not to achieve. What does this tell us about how we use our prosperity? What does this tell us about our choices?

Our success, our prosperity, can allow us to have great things. And we Americans have a preoccupation with food – fast food, gourmet food, ethnic food, natural food, processed food, frozen food, farm-fresh food, food stores, mega-food stores, warehouse food stores, food TV, food magazines, food, food, food. And though eating is requirement of survival, many have taken our prosperity to a new and unhealthy level. Food uses more of our resources than it should, and when it does, other things that could benefit from our prosperity are ignored or disregarded.

Prosperity brings us:

- Time – many have enough resources not to need to work.
- Talents – many have the ability to develop their personal greatness.
- Treasure – many have great financial resources.

So, how do you use these? Consider these other ways to use your prosperity to not suffer from “prosperity-induced padding” and perhaps bring something more significant to the world.

Use your prosperity to:

1. Reorganize and redesign your space to commit to recycling 100% of what can be recycled to tread more lightly on the planet.

2. Insulate your home, replace wasteful appliances, tint windows, update heating or cooling with more efficient products, to reduce your energy consumption.

3. Donate to and support a charity you find personally valuable and meaningful.

4. Buy healthy food for those who don’t have enough, or any – locally, nationally or internationally.

5. Sponsor a child’s education – locally, nationally or internationally.

6 Mentor a child, peer or someone older in what has helped you achieve your personal or professional prosperity.

7. Invent something new and valuable that advances the quality of life, the respect for the planet, improved health, or something else signficant for humanity.

8. Work towards finding a cure for an illness that affects your life or the lives of those you care about.

9. To educate about tolerance, acceptance and respect for differences.

10. To support art, music, literature and other things of beauty that add to the quality of life.

A sign of success in many industrialized countries is the amount of food we have and how much we consume. Notice the amount of food thrown away each day at our restaurants. Notice the aisles of product choices we have in our food store. Notice how easy for most of us to have enough of what we want to eat. And having access to so much doesn’t always make us better. Many times it makes us less healthy, less charitable and less concerned. “Prosperity-induced padding” is what I now call using my “extra” for me instead of for others. And I am committed to ending it – for health and for impact.

So consider returning some of your prosperity back to your world. A little less food can make us all healthier. A little more time, talent and treasures shared with the world, can help others improve their lives. Absolutely celebrate your success and prosperity. But then share this prosperity with others. Another way to say this is, be great, then share this greatness with the world.

Jay Forte is a motivational speaker and performance consultant. He is the author of Fire Up! Your Employees and Smoke Your Competition, and the on-line resources, Stand Out and Get Hired, and The Hunt for Opportunities Success Manual. He has just completed his new book, The Greatness Zone; Your Place To Live and Work With Power, Passion and Purpose; chapter downloads will soon be available on his website. He works to connect people to their talents and passions to live fired up! More information at

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Posted by Jay Forte on June 26th, 2010 in Family, General, Health, New Directions, Personal Stories, Technology, Things We Love | 2 comments Read related posts in , , , , , , , ,

25 mar

We Need You

happier_confidenceSome of you who’ve been with us on the site may know about our Talk to Us section. It’s one of the most active areas, where people share their story of change. Stories of hope, courage, stories of despair, asking for help. While we have some very loyal members and our team looks at these daily and post some tips and suggestions, we are now asking YOU to help.

If you are reading this, you are qualified! Really you are. These stories are stories many of us have been through and can relate to. They include job changes, break ups, health issues from losing weight to a diagnosis, losing a loved one, pursuing a dream. money issues…you get the picture.

It’s amazing what happens when we help each other. We all have so much wisdom to share. We’ve been through our share of changes and someone else’s life might really be helped, transformed by something you know and can share.
A few lines, a similar story with some perspective, a quote, a book to read, some love and encouragement that someone else is out there listening and reading. That’s it. Nothing more.

If you are an expert, life coach, have some specific background, share what you know.

Practically speaking, what am I requesting? Check in on the site, daily if possible. See if someone has posted a new story and if you relate to it or can help, post a comment. It should take you five minutes maximum. And it will leave you feeling like you’ve helped another soul. As a friend of mine said while she was going through a hard time, “when I go to First30Days, I feel better. I know I’ve contributed. My day goes better.”

You can see what’s been happening already. Stories generate some passionate responses and discussion and it’s time to make sure everyone gets this help from our amazing community of Change Optimists!

Consider this your new form of “community service.” We all want to volunteer and know what we do matters. Well, here are real people going through real changes who have had the courage to write their stories and wait for help and direction. And while I am describing it, if you or someone you know has a story or a question to share, please do so and encourage others to do so as well. Many people want to help.

“A small group of thoughtful people could change the world. Indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.” –Margaret Mead.

Posted by Ariane de Bonvoisin on March 25th, 2010 in Ariane, Things We Love | No comments Read related posts in

18 jan

Lessons from Teaching at a School

Teaching3I am still here in South Africa and had one of the most rewarding experiences ever last week. I was invited to teach the 9 Principles of Change in a wonderful school in Johannesburg, called The African Leadership Academy. They sponsor kids from the 53 countries of Africa for the last two years of high school and show them the way to be future leaders of this great continent. The students were between the ages of 16-18, yet every one of them has a wisdom and depth that was truly remarkable.

We discussed the most difficult changes they’ve had to face so far — many of them having lost loved ones — the change they are most excited about making, going to college, starting businesses, contributing and also their most helpful beliefs. Many of them centered around faith and help from others. The students were a lively bunch and participated a lot as we went through each of the principles one by one.

There’s something magical about teaching anything you know or have some experience with. We are so much more comfortable being the students in life, and yet, how easily we forget that we really are expert sin something. Our stories are really our experiences. There’s someone or a group that needs to hear from us. Volunteer. Find a local school and go ask to teach. I am sure they will welcome you.

Power moves through those who serve. I felt a lot of power moving through me that evening when we spent close to three hours all together. These students are so hungry for knowledge, life skills, not more advanced calculus. They want to believe they are big enough to make a real difference and they are.

Teaching2The students are full of life, giggling, smiling. I read somewhere that the average African laughs more in a week than Americans do in a month. That’s crazy. What really surprised me was how polite the Africans are, how present they are towards their fellow students, full of respect and dignity. Everyone feels welcome, heard, seen here.

I’ve attached a few photos so you can see the lovely energy among the students.

I leave you with this thought. What do you have to teach? And where can you do that in your community?

Remember, it doesn’t have to be something major. Maybe you lost weight, started a business, quit smoking, built a website, overcame something difficult. Someone needs to hear your story. As one young man said at the end of my workshop, “I’ve been feeling so much fear for so many years, and what you said has allowed me to feel peace again. I’ve been waiting for years to hear this.”

Nothing can beat that kind of impact on another soul’s life. Go out and serve your fellow beings.

Teaching1And if you haven’t gotten the book, please do so. It’s not too late!

Posted by Ariane de Bonvoisin on January 18th, 2010 in Ariane, Global/Social Change | 2 comments Read related posts in ,