Archive for July, 2012

26 jul

Rebuilding My Life from the Inside Out

ZulmaCarbajalIf you are experiencing job loss, lifestyle changes, relationship issues, illness or the death of a loved one, you are not alone. I for one have experienced all of the above within the last few years. While it has been a difficult time for me, it has also been the most rewarding. I will share with you the tools I have used to help me through my challenging situations.

Remember that change is always for the better

While you are going through a crises it will not seem as though change is for the better. But I assure you that it is. You might not be aware of it on a conscious level, but on a soul level there is a good reason for what you are going through. In my case the situations that occured forced me to take time to heal emotions and issues in my psyche I was not even aware I had. I had suppressed uncomfortable feelings and thoughts for decades. My main way of doing this was by being a workaholic. After my job loss, I eventually saw the futility of running away from my pain. My soul was telling me I was overdue for healing and it created a space and time for me to do so. If I were still working where I was, I never would have taken the time to heal.

Another thing that occurred was that I began to go within for answers. While I would never wish anyone to go through what I went through, my bad situation was so overwhelming I finally asked spirit for help and most importantly I began to listen. There was a magical experience that happened to me one special day and since then something shifted inside of me. For more information please see the article Mind, Body and Spiritual Balance in my personal site Prior to this, my focus was too much on the physical realm and my life felt very empty. I kept thinking, “If only this would happen I will be happy,” “If I get this I will be happy” or “If I do this I will be happy.” This led me to be a control freak, overly focused on doing and achieving. In the long run, I did not need anything that I was trying to get in order to be happy. Communion with spirit brought so much bliss into my life and everything else was not a priority anymore.

When my foundations fell down, I was shown how to rebuild my life again and this time with my heart and soul as part of the committee of decision making. Primarily I was led to find my authenic self. I was given the time to remember what my true purpose for being is. This is why I am writing to you here now. Otherwise I would be at my old job still or one just like it, dying a thousand deaths each day.

Stop negative thoughts and emotions

I know that this is hard to do when you are in the middle of chaos, but what I have learned is that the more we think about the worse case scenario the more it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. Plus it blocks you from thinking clearly for possible solutions. The best thing to do in this case is to take time off from thinking about your problem. In fact, you are likely to get your answer when you are doing something unrelated to your issue. Some good things to do to help you clear your mind are; taking a walk, washing dishes, showering, doing yard work and jogging.

The worse part about thinking negatively is that you attract more of the same. Your negative thoughts create negative emotions. Your emotions are very powerful when it comes to manifesting. They bring things faster towards you and in abundance. You might be right in feeling what you are feeling. No one blamed me for feeling anger towards my previous employer. But not letting go of my anger was keeping me stuck in the black hole. I was also repelling those who could help me get out of my situation.

In the long run you are the one who gets the worse of it by holding on to negative emotions. It even begins to affect you physically. Doctors are now becoming aware of the the correlation between emotions and diseases. For example, someone who holds on to anger long term has a greater risk of developing high blood pressure, heart disease, skin problems, and even cancer.

Stop telling it how it is

Our words are also very powerful when it comes to manifesting. If you keep rehashing your problems you will create more of the same and also stay stuck where you are. I first learned this at the age of thirteen. My school friend and I would spend our recess and after school time talking about our dysfunctional family life and our dreadful school circumstances. After some time of this I began to sink into a deep depression. My math teacher noticed the change and pulled me aside to have a talk with me. Do to my issues with my parents I did not trust authority figures at the time so I did not share what was going on. But he said something to me that made me feel special. The magical future he saw for me became the catalyst to bring me back to the truth and forget what difficulties I was going through at home. My ideal future became my focus and therefore I no longer dwelled on negaive subjects. My life bagan to transform before I knew it. So on the days when I feel like sharing my woes with others out of bad habit, I stop myself. I remember that as a child I was able to make powerful changes so there is no good excuse not to do so now. Please note that this does not mean you do not seek out help when you need it. But you remind yourself why you are doing it, tell people on a need to know basis and give them the short version.

For assistance with your current life challenge you could find my contact information on I am a Life Coach now and my expertise is on helping people honor their spirit, body, heart and mind equally in order to live a more joyful life. I give sessions over the phone and if needed I do them via email as well. The first hour session is free which may be all that you need.

May you have blessed day!

Zulma Carbajal

Posted by Zulma Carbajal on July 26th, 2012 in Career, General, New Directions | No comments Read related posts in ,

20 jul

A Cleansed Way of Living

JennaSmithEven though the media seems to glamorize and encourage drug use, there is nothing glamorous about doing drugs. Your life will be a lot better if you choose to remain alcohol and drug-free. Below are some of the benefits of living a clean life:

Clearer thinking

Drugs and alcohol can impair your judgment and cause you to make careless decisions. It is important to remember that when you make a careless decision, it not only affects you, but it also affects your family members and friends. Many cases of violence, lying and cheating can be attributed to drug or alcohol use. If you choose to remain drug and alcohol-free, you will be able to think clearer, which will reduce your chances of making a careless decision.

Stress management

Many people use drugs and alcohol to cope with the stresses of life. However, drug and alcohol use can actually worsen stress. Drug and alcohol users face the constant pressure of trying to hide their problem from their coworkers, family members and friends. You will not have anything to hide if you choose to abstain.

Better physical health

The human body was not designed to handle drugs and excessive amounts of alcohol. The heart, lungs, kidneys and liver can all be affected by drugs and alcohol. Many premature deaths could be prevented if more people would choose to abstain from drugs and alcohol.

Save your career

Employers have the responsibility of making sure that the working environment is safe for everyone. Studies have shown that people who use drugs and alcohol are more likely to become injured while on the job. Furthermore, drugs and alcohol can interfere with job performance. That is why most employers have implemented drug testing as a part of the application process. They have every right to deny a drug user a job even if the person is qualified. You can save your career by saying no to drugs and alcohol.

Again, your life will be much better if you choose to say no to drugs and alcohol. Clearer thinking, reduced stress and better physical health are just a few of the many benefits that come along with living a drug-free life. You will also be able to save your career. If you have been struggling with a drug or alcohol addiction, there is help available. You can join a professional group, such as Alcoholics Anonymous, or visit

Posted by Jenna Smith on July 20th, 2012 in Diet and Fitness, Health, New Directions | No comments

18 jul

New Hire Checklist – What to Do During Your First 30 Days

JenniferSmithThe first weeks on the job for any new hire are overwhelming. There is often an avalanche of introductions, orientation meetings, training sessions, and new hire paperwork and administrative tasks. While these are all important, here are six things new hires should do on their own within their first 30 days to set themselves up for success.

1. Understand your role and responsibilities.
The responsibilities of the job you were hired for could change by the time you start work. Reach out to your manager about what may have changed, and make sure you have a clear understanding of your current role, responsibilities, and authority before you take on any projects.

Also, find out how you will be measured to determine if you are successful in your job. Ask your manager to define the requirements for success in the job.

2. Come up with an elevator pitch.
You only get one chance to make a first impression. So, before you start introducing yourself to everyone, figure out what you’re going to say when you meet them.

Prepare succinct responses for anticipated questions about what you were hired to do, what company or school you’re coming from, and what your professional qualifications are. Give the people you meet a reason to continue building a relationship with you.

3. Learn everything you can about the business.
Before you can begin to contribute to an organization, you need to figure out how the company works. What are the business objectives? What’s the organizational makeup of the company? How does your company do business?

Taking the time to explore the business will help you understand how your work supports departmental and corporate objectives. According to Tracy McCarty, Senior VP of Human Resources for SilkRoad Technology, that’s the biggest difference between average and exceptional employees.

4. Interview your boss.
The key to being a successful new employee is helping your boss be successful. Find out what keeps your boss up at night and come up with creative ways to alleviate those worries.

Also, ask your boss about goals and objectives for the team. Determine how you can use your skills to help the team accomplish those goals.

5. Be ambitious, but have restraint.
You might be eager to start contributing right away and fixing everything wrong you see with the organization. That intention is good, but tread lightly. As a new hire, you won’t have the historical context about why a policy or process may or may not need fixing.

6. Be proactive about your onboarding.
One day of orientation and a meet and greet with your team may be the extent of your company’s onboarding program. If so, be proactive with your managers about their training plan and what you need to accomplish in your first three months on the job.

To read the full article by Jennifer King, HR Analyst at Software Advice, visit her HR blog.

Posted by Jennifer King on July 18th, 2012 in Career | No comments Read related posts in