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Coming Out of Survival: Love Yourself

WaniManleyLove Yourself

Love yourself. Make the decision to Love yourself and then you must begin to Love yourself. Honor yourself. Appreciate yourself. Value yourself. From within, deem yourself worthy. Remember you are Divinity and Divinity is you. Iyanla Vanzant once said, “I am the one that I have been looking for.” In other words, fall in Love with yourself and become the one you have been looking for. We spend so much time looking for Love, waiting to be Loved, hoping Love will find us, searching and yearning for that special one to Love us. Feeling empty and lost without it. Incomplete. We put enormous time and energy in wanting someone to Love us, to fill us up; yet they never come. You see they never come because Love, which we all are ultimately seeking, is an inside job. This is why you must begin to Love yourself. Until you do, you will never find the Love you seek outside of yourself. No one is ever capable of loving you the way in which you seek to be Loved.

Loving yourself is just not a feeling. It is much so much more than that. To Love yourself is to have total acceptance of yourself. It is the unwavering unconditional Love and respect that you have for yourself that is so deep and solid that you only put yourself into situations and relationships, (including the one you have with yourself) that reflects that same unconditional Love and respect.

To begin to Love yourself, you must first educate yourself about yourself and find out who you are as well as who you are not. This is the first step in beginning to Love oneself, because if you do not know who you are, how can you Love that person? Once you’ve determined who you are, accept yourself. Accept who you are and who you are not. Accept what you look like. Love every square inch of your body including all perceived imperfections. Accept how you feel. Next, stop all disapproval and criticisms of yourself. Stop telling yourself you’re not good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, or whatever enough. Then, stop taking things so personally. Learn to accept a compliment. Just simply say, “thank you.” Take the utmost care of yourself. Treat yourself and do so without guilt. You deserve it and so give it to yourself and lots of it. You’re worth it. Believe you are worth it. Start putting the care of yourself before the care of others. Say “no” sometimes. It is OK. Treat yourself. Nurture yourself, your space, both inner and outer. Tell yourself, “I Love you,” and do it all the time. Smile.

You see, the Love you have for yourself will carry you entirely through and keep you resilient no matter the circumstance. This is the only way you will turn things around. This whole game of life is just about Love. Love is the ultimate answer to all problems. As you begin to Love yourself, everything else in your life will also change. So, make the decision to Love yourself. It’s just a decision.

Wani Iris Manly

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Posted by Wani Manly on May 3rd, 2010 in New Directions, Spirituality, Uncategorized | 2 comments

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  • I really….needed to hear that today! Thank you.

    — Added by girlbythesea on May 6th, 2010
  • thank you!… enough said. :)

    — Added by miracle20 on May 7th, 2010

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