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04 dec

Friends Without Benefits

I’ve been in a relationship for several years with someone I consider to be a very good friend. We have a good time when we are together, but it’s a long distance relationship and we don’t see each other all that often.

On top of the distance, the real problem is that I can’t see myself with this person in a committed relationship, mostly because what I want and need is not necessarily why this person has to give. Many other problems exist, but what really concerns me is that the more time that goes by, the more I feel like I’m missing opportunities to date people who could potentially be my life mate.

The thought of breaking off with this person worries me on a number of levels. The thought of living the rest of my life without a love to share it with frightens me even more.

Shared by OliviaF.

Posted by First 30 Days on December 4th, 2008 in Personal Stories | 2 comments

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  • I think that if you are not sure about this relationship you should be honest about it to the other person and please get on with your life. I’m one hundred percent sure that Mr. Right is out there somewhere and it doesn’t always come when we want it to. Just be honest with this person and let go……enjoy your time alone and then look around you. You never know what might be right in front of you. Don’t stay in a relationship just for the relationship it’s not a good enough reason. If there are many other problems anyway, you will probably free yourself to really find Mr. Right.

    Shared by arabrab.

    — Added by First30Days on August 28th, 2009
  • Yeah, I so know where you’re at. Been there. It’s lovely to have that special person all tucked up in the corner of your mind. But the problem is the real estate you’re giving them is holding you back. You need to be lonely and uncomfortable to kick yourself into the right mindset, emotional ’set’ etc… to really meet your mate. I actually had to leave mine and move, but you’re already in long-distance situation. So stop the late night ‘check-in’ calls that hold your loneliness at bay, and jump into the night. You’ll be surprised by how quickly the room you make gets filled. You’ll see!

    Shared by j4metoo

    — Added by First30Days on August 28th, 2009

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