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14 oct

The 24-Hour No Blame Challenge

I recently joined WebTalk Radio host Paul McLoughlin for a wide-ranging interview addressing the anxieties currently gripping the nation and how to navigate a host of changes.

Adapting to change is the number one life skill we can cultivate right now. During the interview, Paul asked “What gives you the right to talk about other people’s change?” Good question. My passion over the past five years has been to meet and interview thousands who have undergone change–they’ve lost their money, started businesses, divorced, lost a loved one and suffered the gamut of life issues. All these people have had to find a way of getting through tough times and some great changes. I’ve seen the patterns and principles of change that truly make a difference in a time of crisis. I’ve gone through my own share of changes-leaving jobs, starting a business, losing loved ones, breaking off an engagement and losing most of my savings a few years ago. Take a moment to listen to the interview. We covered changes in the markets, education, health and our jobs. I can’t think of any area Paul didn’t ask me about.

Bringing it back to a macro level, a lesson I’ve learned is that companies don’t change–people change. Countries don’t change, people will have to change. It will be the individuals that precipitate change.

I recently read that when we are faced with times of crisis, our primary emotional patterns will come out even more strongly during the upheaval. So, angry people will become angrier, people who blame will blame even more, people who are full of fear will become more fearful. And people who are grateful will become more grateful, people who are focused on helping will find more ways to help. So, what is your primary go-to emotion these days? You are most likely doing more of it.

Here’s a suggestion, since there’s so much blame energy going on right now in the country and I really do believe change starts with each one of us. Tomorrow, for just 24 hours, don’t blame the President, the government, your boss, your broker, yourself, the cab driver, your partner or anyone else for what’s going on. Notice how much time and energy in your day is consumed with being focused on blame. Regardless of whether you’re justified or not, blame never achieves anything. We really need people to contribute more hope than fear right now.

Posted by Ariane de Bonvoisin on October 14th, 2008 in Global/Social Change, Speaking Events | 0 comments Read related posts in

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