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Question:What if you're an empty nester and single? Now what?

Ok, I'll do my best. Back in April my youngest, age 19, texted me and said he was moving in with his girlfriend and Mom. Not a situation or decision I thought he would make so soon. He works PT but the Mom gave the green light that he could live there for $25/wk! I said what I could at the time but his mind was made up about moving out. I had to let him go. The next couple of months were hard for me. I felt sadness about what happened. I didn't feel the "freedom" I thought I would feel when my boys left home. I realize it is a transition and will take time. My question at this point is what do I do know? I own my own home, finances are limited and I am not currently in a relationship. I want to find a direction for myself but don't know what direction to head into. I work a FT and PT job so that keeps me busy. I try to fit in things that make me feel content and happy each day. I still feel like something is missing in my life. I want to make a change but an uncertain what change. Is this a normal stage to be in at this point of my life? I am 51 years old and have been divorced for 14 years. I have no immediate family nearby. That doesn't help. I have friends I can do things with but they are as busy as I am. Many times I come home to an empty house which is starting to bother me. I do have a cat. I was watching my son's dog and realize I cannot have a dog as a pet. They need too much time and attention I do not have with my working schedule. Overall, I am still searching for my direction. Looking for tips, suggestions and ideas. Thank you.

Asked by wnybab on 10/21/09 Answer»