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The First Step to Stepparenting

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Congratulations on becoming a stepparent. It may be daunting to think of being a “parent” to children you didn’t conceive, but once you get in the swing of things you’ll find it’s one of the most rewarding changes you will experience in your life.

Over the next 30 days, you will:

  • Establish clear parenting roles with your spouse.
  • Find ways to bond with your stepchildren.
  • Make friends with the ex-spouse—yes, really.
  • Begin creating a happy, blended family.


You’re being asked to step into the roles of new spouse and parent simultaneously, and that can be quite difficult. You know it won’t always be easy. But, you’re wise enough to know that by gathering your resources and learning the tools now, you’ll be able to make this transition smoother for everyone.

On this first day, try to get out of the mindset of calling your stepchild a “stepchild” in his or her presence. From a child’s perspective, that word can sometimes have a negative connotation and you don’t want him or her to feel inadequate or out of place from the start. Instead, refer to your stepchild by name.

DID YOU KNOW? According to The Stepfamily Foundation, more than 1,300 stepfamilies are formed everyday in the United States.

Posted: 6/25/17
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twiladennis

I am in my early 40s and have never had a happy relationships or marriages because of the terrible mistake I made in my youthful age (15 years ago), though I have been married for 3times now. This story is ugly but I must share it to clear my conscience and pave the way for a new beginning in life. I broke two homes; their marriage did not mean anything to me as much as I gets what I want. It was fun until I got married, then karma started. My first husband was a cheating machine with both women and men, the second was nothing to write home about. I visited a therapist immediately the second left, to make sure I do not have broken home again, but the third which I have married for a year and two months took in another girl and demanded I leave his house. I did not see that one coming. To cut it shot; dr. wakina via (dr.wakinalovetemple@gmail.com) showed me mercy by rewriting history with a special love spell. Asked me to first go and plead for forgiveness from the homes I broke before the spell can take effect, it was not an easy task, in fact it was a suicide mission but was success. The spell took effect immediately I forgave myself, something strange began to happen, I saw shadows running off my body that morning, my husband who despised me so much did not only call but came to pick me from work to a romantic dinner. Over a year now, my husband has remained a loving and romantic man. I learnt my lesson. Thank you doctor wakina.

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His actions brought a serious damage to my marriage when my husband found out, he lost trust in me and changed his behavior by paying deaf ear as I try to justify my relationship towards my ex, he instead said he has fallen out of love for me and he need space and separation from me and the only thing keeping us is our kid.
I became worried that my ex might succeed in ruining my 6 years old marriage because of jealousy. My husband and I almost went our separate ways before I found the review from Enid Peter last weekend containing Dr. Wakina’s email [dr.wakinalovetemple@gmail.com]
Just a day after the twenty four hours healing spell for my broken marriage, my husband became himself again like the man of my dream. My stalking ex come to our house that night to plead to my husband and I before fleeing away for good. What a lovely and caring husband he is now, am happy Dr. Wakina helped me defeat my physical and spiritual enemies, we are champions. More strength to Dr. Wakina.

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ineschurch

My family advised me not to leave my future or that of my child in the hands of a jerk! They do not really know what he means to me. He left me because of family issues, my parents never liked him, they thought he is stingy and too quiet, but they never knew he is richly blessed inside. Though I tried several time to make them accept him before the pregnancy saga which made them go mad and pressured him to force our breakup. We lost contact with each other, he did not see our son when she was delivered. But I kept wishing to be with him again for eternity, I pray every night that my parents forgive him and accept him the way he is.
2yeras passed and I still kept my hope strong, I was referred to Dr. Wakina by a stranger online who benefited from his love spell, her testimony motivated me to contact him for. I was afraid because I have not done such before because I do not want to hurt anybody. I was surprised when Dr. Wakina first told me my problems and status of my baby father. It was quite impressive that I had to share tears of joy with high hope.
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