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Question:How should I RE-introduce my small children to their 11 years old brother that has been gone for 2 years?

Hello all,

First I would like to thank you for reading my question. Now, to make a long story short I am married to a great man and we have two kids together, 4 yrs and 1 1/2 years old. I also have a step-son that is 11 years old and has been estranged for the past two years due to parental alienation, his ex is very psychotic and she feeds their son information that kids should not hear. His son started getting angry with my husband and then did not want anything to do with us. He stated that my husband was "dead to him". But,in the meantime my step son has also quit talking to my in-laws and I'm not sure why but before that happened when he he did speak with them all my step son could say is hurtful thinks about My husband, myself and my one child (he as never met his 2nd brother) Now, two years have gone by and now he is starting to re-enter our life. My husband has met up with him a few times within the last months. I am not sure how to re-introduce my 4 year old to my step-son with out confusing him. I need advice. I also, am feeling so much anger and resentment that I cant get my-self to see him and cant imagine what I would do if and when i see him. I dont think i could ever treat or care for him the same. He has said so much hurtful stuff about my son, me and my husband...I just dont know what to do. Any help would be great.

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