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Dr. Carl Pickhardt

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Pickhardt, a psychologist and author of Keys to Successful Stepfathering, answers questions on stepparenting.

Sally Bjornsen

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Bjornsen, of the website sassystepmother.com, shares informative tips on stepparenting.

Jeanette Lofas

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Lofas, founder of the Stepfamily Foundation, offers advice for facing your new role as a stepparent.
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Question:What's the best way to make friends?

Should you plan all sorts of outings and things to do together or wait for them to make the first move? Or, does it depend on the children themselves?

How have you been able to forge a healthy relationship for your stepchildren?

Asked by VBianchini on 3/2/08
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jeanfroner

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I think different kids would have different answers for the first part of your question. For me, as I was a stepchild, I would really have responded well to a warm, loving person who reached out to me and left the discipling to my mom or dad. The best thing a stepparent can do is support his/her spouse without taking over the parent role, which can be tricky, I'm sure. I'd say that becoming a loving advocate for the child who still has boundaries is the best of all worlds. My stepmom is definitely that! She's great!

Answered by: jeanfroner on 3/6/08
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