Tips
Is She the One?
A proposal is your first step towards marriage, and approximately 2.4 million weddings occur every year. Still, marriage can be an incredibly daunting prospect—the whole “till death do you part” aspect means this is a long-term commitment. And that kind of commitment can be incredibly frightening for men and bring up doubt as to whether this girl is worth the effort. If you’re going to propose marriage, first make sure it’s for all the right reasons.
The best thing to do is to ask yourself a series of questions about your relationship. Here are some to get you started:
Can you see yourself spending the rest of your life with her?
When you think of her, do words like loving, caring and supportive come to mind?
Is your relationship reciprocal, balanced and based on mutual respect?
Does she support you in the ways you need to be supported?
Does you support her in the ways she needs to be supported?
Do you agree on issues of money, sex, religion and children?
Do your values match?
Does your vision of the future coincide with hers?
Have you already talked about marriage and were you both open to it?
Do you truly love her?
Can you imagine your life without her?
If you’ve answered these questions honestly and everything points towards a long life with your girlfriend, then rest assured that you’re making the right decision and that everything will go according to plan. Remember that and don’t sweat it if little details go wrong.
If there is still some doubt in your mind, its OK. You can still research and prepare throughout this month for the time that you are ready.
"Is HE the one?"
Dear Ariane & other readers
This is my third day on this site and as experienced as i am in the field of life coaching am still learning of the tips on the first 30 days, that means a well meant thank you all for sharing your thoughts and advices.
I have been through some life challenges and doing well. As a very special gift my boyfriend came into my life and turned my life in another direction. I had given up on unconditional love...Thought that i am kind off weird to expect the same love and caring...Am having it all and more and we are still deeply in love. We are both muslim and ready to settle. I am going to propose to him even though it still might seem uncommon nowadays - especially for us as we are expected to hold on to our traditions. The way we are living is not traditional, but so is nothing about this relationship. Are there other tips, issues i should think about? prepare for? Is it still thought to be that different when a woman proposes to a man?