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Top 5 Things to Do

1. Make sure she’s the one.

Before you even begin to think about proposing, make sure she’s the one. Ask yourself these four questions: Do you both have shared values? Do you trust her? Do you agree on issues of money, sex and children? Do you share similar views of what you want in the future? If the answers are all positive, and your instinct is pointing towards yes, then continue on the proposal path. If not, take some more time to think about it.

 

2. Pick the right place and time.

 

Pick a special place or setting that is important to you as a couple. It doesn’t necessarily have to be the most expensive place in town. Choose some place that resonates for you as a couple and creates a story. If you both met at a restaurant, have a special dinner there. If you met on a ski slope, then a ski weekend might work. Be creative with your marriage proposal, but make it appropriate for your relationship.

3. Do your diamond homework.

Start by asking her friends about the kind of ring she would like. What size and color does she find most appealing? Do some internet research and visit local jewelry stores to see what fits in your price range. Learn the four C’s of diamond grading and make sure you’re getting a quality diamond for the price. Ask a jeweler or a friend for help.

4. Practice your lines.

Be clear and definite in your proposal that you love her and you want to spend the rest of your life with her. Try rehearsing your lines so you’re comfortable saying them when the time comes. Also, don’t forget those four important words—“will you marry me?”

5. Remember that you love her.

This can be a stressful time, and if you do get married, there will be more stressful times in your future. When you start to freak out, take a step back and remember all the reasons why you love her and why you want to spend the rest of your life with her. Everything that you’re doing is because of that love. Don’t forget that.

Posted: 1/7/08