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Figuring Out How to Propose

It was nearly sunset when Joe Menicucci took a knee in front of a cabin at Chico Hot Springs Resort & Spa in the grassy mountains of Montana. With a ring box in his hand, his girlfriend Penny Citrola was elated that her boyfriend of a year was about to propose. As it was happening, Joe, a Bozeman, MT, native, realized that his proposal was working and said later, “I wanted to make sure Penny had the night she wanted.”

After saying he loved her and wanted to spend the rest of his life with her, Joe asked Penny to marry him. She didn’t respond, but gave him a box of his own. When he opened it, he saw a watch inscribed, “Yes. Love, Penny.” Just in case he wasn’t clear, she also said, “yes.”

Every guy hopes to craft a heart-melting marriage proposal one day. For many, the idea of a marriage proposal is nerve-wracking. “It’s a very dramatic life step packaged into a single moment,” explains James Bassil, editor-in-chief of Askmen.com. “It’s been built up as this romantic moment, but it must be planned and coordinated. It represents a life decision.”

While it’s normal to feel nervous about how to propose, it doesn’t have to paralyze you. With a little research and planning, the first 30 days of proposing can be exciting and fun. Some detective work and forethought can help you sweep her off her feet.

Overcoming your Proposing Nerves

Before you start on your marriage-proposal plan, you have to ask yourself whether your girlfriend is really “the one.” You really have to trust your instincts here. So, be honest about the answer. This can go a long way toward allaying any fears you have about proposing.

Posted: 1/7/08