The Best Laid Plans

Although you may only be engaged a matter of days, you have probably been asked 15 times if you’ve set a date, where you are getting married and where you are going on your honeymoon. It can be tempting to answer these well-intentioned questions, but try to resist until you’ve had a chance to come to a consensus with your partner.

Schedule some time to talk with your betrothed about both of your expectations for planning the wedding, and keep talking until you come to some consensus. Why the rush? As soon as you start talking specifics about the wedding plans—whether it’s the date, the location or the color scheme—well-meaning family and friends will start offering their opinions and suggestions. You need to be able to present a united front so that you can stick up for each other and the wedding of your dreams.

It may take several conversations to agree on a wedding game plan. While you’re working things out with your partner, try using a standard script with your curious family and friends, such as, “We haven’t had a chance to plan that yet, but we’re working on it and we’ll let you know as soon as we do.”