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Be My Pal

Be My Pal

You're unpacked, your new place is set and you finally figured out the quickest ways to get around your new neighborhood.

Now you're yearning to bond with new friends. It's a weird concept when you consider the fact that the last time you might have felt this nervous about making friends was in grade school. Still, there are a few ways to ease into it. Here are some to get you started.

*Take Fido for a walk. Getting out and about with your pooch is a great way to meet new folks. Not only will the animal lovers flock to meet your furry friend, but it will also give you an opportunity to introduce yourself and chat for a bit.

*Sign up for a class or group. Name your passion and there's bound to be a group for it. Running, cooking, reading—whatever you pleasure is, getting together with other people who share your hobby is a fabulous way to make instant friends.

*Say yes! You may want to spend time setting up your home or you may just naturally be a homebody, but when you are in new city it is imperative that you accept invitations. Join coworkers for dinner or attend the neighborhood barbeque. You will be glad you did when you walk away with some new pals.

The bottom line is that it's tough to be the new guy or gal, but the good news is that most people have been in your situation at some point in their lives. Be confident, put your best smile on and say, "Hi!" You'll be glad you did.

We want to know: What are your tips for making new friends?

Posted: 10/29/08
runnindownadream

Surprisingly, I made quite a few friends and connections during my apartment search. If you think about it, the people you meet will be from a similar income bracket and age group, and could turn out to be your new neighbors. Be open minded when you meet these prospective roommates.

LauraLee311

Another important tip is to remember to be patient. It takes time to build friendships, especially if you try one group and don't really feel like you fit in. Pick something else! Keep trying new things and places (and saying yes) until you find people you click with.