solareclipsegt

I'm sorry to hear about your hard times, it seems everyone you speak with these days is suffering somehow.
Back in the early 90's when i hit the job market full-time i was getting laid off left and right no matter what job i took in what sector.. i had very minimal skills and worked bottom of the totem poll jobs.. after my 4th layoff in 2 years i decided to speak with a councelor at the unemployment office.. not only did i receive benefits but my state allows for schooling, which THEY pay for up to a certain $ amount (which most community colleges fall under) i went to school for psychology FULL TIME on the state's dime.. almost got my associates degree before life made me leave school. but i have some college credits under me now that looks better on a resume plus the computer courses i took while there proved beneficially to getting above entry level. You should REALLY look into it if your state offers a schooling program.. most do because they want you to be better to get off their "payroll" so to speak.
good luck to you and let us know what happens.

HUGS

I agree with most of the replies so far.. He's comfy with you because you are TOWING THE LINE.. he's obviously starting a new life with a new person. Tell him to go to his new family.. it's most likely his guilt that keeps bringing him back to you anyway.
Move on without him and find your happiness.
Many Hugs to you.

If you are asking the question you already have your answer. It's time to let go.
without detail it's hard to advise on how to cut the cord, but things that have worked in the past for me is an e-mail carefully written. If that person wants further discussion ablidge them, but don't make them feel bad..
OR
another approach that has worked if you know the person is going to be confrontational is simply to be busy and not allow time for the friendship anymore..
Good luck to you

move on! Being in the past will prevent you from moving on. When a thought pops, change it.. OR revel in it and remember the moment for what it was.. living in the past will also prevent you from seeing what is in front of you. it's never a good practice.. having memories and such is ok, but dwelling? never. I did it back in 99.. took 7 years to move on with heavy counseling the last 2. i made bad decisions in that 5 year span, got involved with the wrong guys and married an abusive alocoholic, i'm now divorced lol. that's what dwelling got me into.. so nip it in the bud and go seek professional help now. they will give you the keys to stop the nonsense, you just need to be honest with the Dr. about your thoughts and feelings and they will help you get over it.
good luck to you.

My goodness.. an alcoholic.. tsk tsk tsk.. been there, done that, left that.. Find your happiness with a sober person, he won't quit until HE doesn't want to drink anymore.. and trust me he doesn't they never do.. What type of marriage could you have with someone that really trully isn't there? Go to alanon meetings to strengthen yourself and move on.. talking isn't going to help unless he is completely sober, and if he shows no interest then you have your answer.
good luck to you and many hugs.. stay strong

First thing is you both need to have an open communication about this. Find out what he is and isn't comfortable with and communicate your thoughts and feelings to him as well.. IMHO, being 34 yrs old, i would split and go live life uninhibited and if it is meant to be then you two will find each other again once you have moved passed that part of your life. you are young, live life to it's fullest and have no regrets.

I don't believe in infidelity AT ALL.. Once you make that decision to bed someone else you can stay at that house because you aren't coming home.. so i'm pretty biased. But if you want to work on it then i suggest going to couple's counseling. If he isn't a willing participant than just kick him to the curb.