My husband had congestive heart failure at the beginning of a school year. My daughter had moved in while going through a divorce and was in the process of moving out; she put that on hold in order to help take care of him so that I could still teach and he wouldn't have to go to a nursing home. Five years later, she still lives at home and I wouldn't EVER have it any other way! Occasionally, she takes a job for a short time; when she has a job, she helps out with the bills--but only because SHE insists. When she has a job, I hire someone to help with my husband while she and I are both out of the house because he cannot be left alone.

On the other hand, my husband's three boys all insist that he is MY responsibility. They want nothing to do with him and his care. They don't even come to visit him unless they want money. Every time they HAVE come to our home, they have stolen something. They have stolen so much that they aren't welcome unless I am here to supervise their visit. I wouldn't let one of them move in for any reason!