I would just ask him to write down his feelings about it. Then let you read them and write down your own. It's a good way for each of you to say exactly...
I hate to say it, but the best way to find out would be to be honest with her. Ask her, and tell her what you are noticing and how you are feeling as...
I agree, you are taking the right steps. It's good that you are reaching out. Have you found any support groups or any sort of a group therapy you could...