WOW, Really? I have found that, yes take the focus off the stress of the "event" is true enough, but make the focus about someone else. Volunteer at a soup kitchen, or help deliver toys for toys for tots. Adopt a family who cannot afford gifts for their kids and deliver them and watch their face light up with appreciation. That is a feeling you wont forget, and you will not be able to think of your own sadness when you see how you touched the life of another person!

wow- this made me really think. I liked the part about replacing victim vocabulary with empowering words.