LauraLee311

Hi, Tina,
I'm sorry to hear about the situation you're in. As Victoria said, it sounds sticky for sure. You say you two were good friends before this, but if that's the case, didn't you know he was married, even if it was unhappily married? The next issue I see is that again, if he was a good friend, to throw you under the bus like that and place all the blame on you is not a very "friendly" (or honoroable) thing to do. If the man had been willing to own up to his wife about you, then I would say maybe it would be appropriate to answer her calls and questions. However, because he didn't do that, I would say to ignore her calls as well as his calls, and try to remove yourself from them as much as possible. Good luck; I know that's easier said than done.

Hmmm, that's a tough one. I think at the stage my fiancé and I are in now, yes, we probably would be willing to relocate. We live in an apartment, so we wouldn't have to worry about selling our home. We also don't have kids, so we wouldn't have to worry about uprooting their lives. Of course, it would also depend on the new job, pay, perks, and the company would have to pay for our moving expenses.

It's all about starting small and doing a little bit every day. And just think--soon you'll husband and his mother will be out of your hair! That will be two less stress factors to weigh you down! I'm glad you said that you want to do this for you and not someone else. That is a lot of motivation in and of itself. Also remember not to strive for perfection, if you're naturally a little cluttered, that's OK! As Victoria said, you have a lot on your plate, so give yourself a pat on the back for juggling so much and still wanting to strive to improve yourself!

I think Kristen offers a lot of good advice. I'd hang in for at least a year before you decide to move again. Remember to be open to all invitations so you can meet new friends, and go exploring a lot. If at the end of the year you haven't found places, friends or things you love, then it might be time to go somewhere else. But I bet you'll be surprised how much has changed for the better by the end of that one year.

I was lucky too--I left work early because I heard all the stories of hour or more waits, but when I got there at 4:30 p.m., I only waited for 10, maybe 15 minutes!

As LMayo said, I'm no doctor either, but I've come to find that if you're evening throwing out the question of "should I go see a doctor?" it almost always means that yes, you should. No respectable doctor is going to kick you out of the office for caring too much about your health.

I took the quiz -- thank you so much for the link Victoria! -- and no, I don't have any of those warning signs. However, I am an exercise dropout right now -- I haven't been to the gym in two weeks. It's a combination of longer work hours and wedding planning that has stolen my work out time. Up until these last couple of weeks, I was working out at least three days a week, if not five. In reality, I probably won't squeeze in a workout this week, but I will make sure to hit it hard both days this weekend.