AngelNaphtalie

I haven't won anything for over 18 years, but I can still wish for it too happen again. Of course that means I would have to actually go out and play a number. I did that 3 weeks ago, put the number away somewhere for safe keeping, and can't remember where that 'Safe keeping Place' is. But, I am sure at some point I will find the ticket, and if it won, I will know then. What I really want to win, and I do submit too often, and I know it is far fetched, is 'Publishing Clearing House.' I won't hold my breath though, waiting. Just a Dream. But it would be exciting to have the 'Crew' Show up at my door, with that check. Actually, they do owe me, cause I am always buying something from them. It's fun anticipating the WIN!

Nope!...He lost out on 'That Loving Feeling', when he left the first time. He just wants to run away from responsiblity. He's insecure with himself, and you are a 'Solid Rock', that he climbs up onto, when he gets lost in the forest. He has to learn to become the 'Rok' on his own. If he has been with this other women for 3 years, verses 3 months, (not that this makes a difference), and he never told you about the new baby or her, then ask yourself 'What's wrong with this picture!?'
Yaaah!...He's started a new family!...and who knows how many other family's.
If he was on his own, trying to do the right things to prove he was 'The Man', for you, then sure, take a chance, work it out.
But, he didn't do that. He got another woman pregnant. That's a BIG NO-NO! If he did that once, he'll probably do it again. He won't tell her anything, cause he doesn't plan on leaving her. At least for now, anyway. I have seen it all before. It never ends on a happy note.
Move on, become independant and strong. Say "NO"!...It's hard, but, if you don't your kids will do the same things, the two of you are doing. If you stand up for your self respect, and self esteem, get 'Prettied UP!' and have a back yard party, and invite a friend, maybe even invite, the EX and his Girl-Gone-Pregno, That should spice things up. Show nothing but love and concern. That's sure to tilt the Trees and spill over the Rim of Gin. Do it with a SMILE.
You don't need him to work it out for the family, he already messed up their heads. He can still be a dad, he can take them over his place for a change. Don't lie to your kids, and cover up for him. He has to be a man, and do the right things or leave you alone.
Move on! But do it with LOVE.
Respect yourself.

Once they are out...They stay out!
I have six grown children, who are all out there on their own doing what ever. I used to feel sorry for them, if things didn't pan out for them, and would take them back in. Thinking that would help them get back on their feet. Well, it did help them, and they were on their feet, or maybe off their feet, messing up my house, eating my food, piling up dishes, along with their friends. Yes! I learned the hard way. I was enabling them to sponge off mom. Some got jobs, but I didn't see any help back, nor any food put in the fridge, from their ravishing appetites. Not to mention the huge light bills, and phone bills (before cell phones of course, whoops!...forgot they did run up those bills too, in my name of course), they wholly contributed too.
So, the mean ole mammy had to put down her high heel boots, and say 'Get out! Go get a job! Get your own place to live!' Then point them to the door, push them out, and tell them to step back before the door hits them. 'I will see you on the holidays, maybe your birthday. I'll even supply the cake. But living her with mom, can't help you to 'Grow UP'. Tough love!
I really love my kids, and their kids, and they all respect me now for pushing them out of the nest, maybe twice or so, can't remember.
After a certain age, they need to be out there discovering the world and all it has to over, or not over. Letting them back in, enables them to be unproductive, and underdeveloped in the responsiblitliy area.
I would mother over them, worry about them (still do), and always find a way to 'FIX' the boo-boo, so to speak. But it all had to stop.
I don't really close the door. I just push them to find their wings, to fly, to soar to heights un-imaginable.
Some got it, and have learned to fly, other's still sit on the ground, flapping their wings, trying to get into someone else's nest. Some are flying but have no landing gear, or don't know how to use them. Some think they are the only ones who know how to fly, but haven't flown anywhere far. Some have took off, in astounding bounds, and have flown to the top of the highest trees.
If they really need help, I do give it, but in advice only, as living examples that they can relate too. I do let them come in, to visit, and maybe take a nap, or use the 'Resting Depoist Area' as the bath room has been named by my sons. Do my grandmothering duties, with the little ones. But, when anyone asks if they can move in, that sets off the 'ALARMS'. Sorry, here's a bag of goodies, go by your sister, or brother, but theirs no room in the INN. If I don't do that, then they will never learn to make it on their own. Boys must grown into responsible mature working adults and partners. Girls must grow into strong independant young ladies and most likely mothers someday. I believe I set the ground work for them, up to a certain stage of their lives, and they have to use those keys to open doors of their own. They may fumble, and fall, but most will get back up, and dust off the dust, and climb back up the latter. If they fall too hard, you are allowed to lend them a hand to pull them up, but only for a few. Just always remember that there are others, and what is good for one, is good for all. Every situation is different, handle them with care and clear vision. Trust your heart, and your higher self. Tuffin' up your heart, but never stop loving them. They will be mad at first, may even forever, but someday you can stand proud that you helped them to stand on their own, tall and strong.
Be good to yourself, when they come knocking, say: 'Nice to see yah!..I was just leaving to catch a plane to 'Chill-lax Island'..talk to you when I get back. Give me a call later. Don't forget to close the gate behind you. Love you!'
Always say 'I love you" They hate it, but love it too.

Cheating is a nasty-habit, that both individuals, men and women fall prey too. I have seen it, been victim too it, and did it myself. I forgave all situations, and put them at bay, and left them in the dust, falling off my feet, as I kept stepping. Now, not everyone can do that, and it took some real courage, and get up and go to accomplish that horindous feat. But, it can be done. First have the evidence to prove it, step up to the plate, and be prepared for all the different balls that can be thrown at you. 'Oh honey!..I was drunk, it was her carisma, it only happened once, may twice. I didn't want to hurt you, so I tried to break it off. They don't mean anything to me, give me a second, third, fourth, trillion chance. I didn't know what I was doing,it all happened so fast. I fell asleep, and woke up with someone there, naked. My car broke down, they came to help me. My cell phone didn't work, I didn't have it on me.
And the list goes on. I have heard it all, seen it all, felt it all, smelled it all. Down to the core bone of my being. Once they cheat, it always continues. Although there are a few exceptions to the rule. Some can change, but I bet cha' the craving is still there.
It's diffently not your fault!...Be nice to your self, and go out on the town, buy something you want. And paint the town what ever color you want. If you bump into him, along the way, paint him too, and who ever else is around, and keep on stepping.
Next time, state it up front and personal: 'Hey!..Nice to meet you, my name is So-n-So, if you want to get with me, I don't want baggage, other women or men, personal bad habits, unless they work with mine. Don't mind kids, just leave the Ex where they are, keep it clean, work it, and don't break it."
Or don't be bothered at all.
I had to forgive myself for the wrongs I did, which were caused by being hurt by so many other's. I had to forgive them, and figure out how I could find the right person who would be faithful, and true.
I could write a book on this subject, and maybe I will, later, but for now, the best advise is to tell you, or anyone reading this is to stop putting up with it, say to yourself: 'What does love have to do with it!" like Tina Turner said in one of her songs. Feel the pain, and all that goes with it. Grab a bowl of fruit, aaah! forget that, add some icecream to it. Find the Girls, and pop some pop corn, and gossip. Or go out to the movies. Sometimes the Girls, don't help, they keep the pain going. So do it yourself.
Once you respect yourself, and realize that you did everything to love him, and be there for him. And he found someone else to 'fling around with, then he doesn't deserve the goodness you are. There's someone out there just waiting for the doors to be opened for them to enter. Take a nice Milk and Roses bath. Sprinkle some jasmine oil to lift your spirits. Promise yourself, that you are going to be good to yourself always, first and foremost, before anyone else. Stand up and take a walk.
They will cry, beg, plead, promise all kinds of things to keep you there. Bottom line, they will never change. Sooner or later, the temptation will come. And you will holding your heart alone.
Being upfront from jumpstreet, is the way to be. Trust your inner instincts, and not nor passion, or so called 'Love' for them. Don't get me wrong, love is important in a relationship, but don't expect it to be the glue to fix it. Love is it's own foundation. If there relationship is lacking it, (cheating is the test of this), then 'Love' stands alone on it's own, and it is not the foundation of this relation ship.
In my relationship with my man I have lived with for 9 years, I started with the basic truths, and background of what I would like from him if he wanted to be in my world, or wanted me in his. I stated that cheating was not going to be tolerated, or allowed. If I ever suspect it, I will gather my facts, and present them, and take that walk with out ever looking back. Love will always stand the test of time, but it will not tolerate infidility. I have a strong bond, and understanding, respect for him, and he the same with me. And we both know what we don't want, and what we do want. Each other. If you don't have that, or don't see it, then leave it alone.
Forgive, but keep the info tucked away, for future reference.

Chinese medicine, and acupressure alternative medicines practises do look at your tongue and how it looks to determine what is going on inside of you.
I had a doctor once when I was about 14 say; 'that I had a geographical tongue when I get really sick.' It helped him to diagnos many of the child hood sickness rather quickly, before he had acutual proof, or blood results. To this day, I can sometimes guess at what is wrong by the color or look of my tongue. So, there is proof out there, just do some research on it. Hope this helps.

I would say: 'Be passionate about what you are good at. They are your talents, and if you use them with love and devotion, just like you do the person you share your life with, then you have passonately alliegned yourself with it all. Love your self, love what you do, and how it makes you feel. The rest will come naturally.'

MAC computers, I am assuming is the question you are asking, are very easy to learn and use. They are very neat, and efficient. I can use a PC, and a MAC, but find I prefer my MAC anyday. They are very affordable too, and to me, I have only had one problem with it in 5 years. And that was do to Apple having a recall on a part that they had to fix and replace. Since then, everything has been fine. MAC's are easy to fix too, once you master it. So, try it out, and you'll never go back to the other computers ever. It will be an Apple Day, putting a smile on your face.