It's taken me a LONG time to get this, but peace and happiness come from within. It is all about how you look at things, how you interpret things, and how you feel about that. You can be convinced you have a good life or a bad one and you'd be right- even though it's the same exact life. You have to learn to manage your emotions, your reactions to other people, to not take things personally- some people are just idiots or they're unhappy or they just don't know better- you have to let go. Resentment kills relationships. I know, I almost lost my marriage convinced I was right and lost in my martyrdom. Everything my husband did and said was analyzed and taken personally- it took a while but I realized that he just can be an idiot sometimes. You are what you are in this moment without people. Make that person (you) happy first, take care of yourself, do what you want, say what you want, your life is yours to do what you wish!!! Take baby steps to make the changes you need to be happy and don't beat yourself up when you mess up. Every day, every moment is another chance to be the person you want to be.